Hi just wondering if anyone else's husband doesnt want to be involved in their pregnancy or is mine just an ass. He doesnt want me to even talk about the pregnancy too much because he says time is only going to drag on if i keep talking about it. Anyone else have this problem with their husband/partner?
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Hes being an ass :(
Sorry but he is being an idiot :(
Yours is an ass
Is he excited for the baby?
Was baby planned?
Even if he was sick of only hearing about the pregnancy he clearly doesn't care about your feelings at all! What a jerk
My husband was like this at first.
I sat him down and spoke to him about it.
Turns out, he was just scared.
We had a long talk about all of his fears and insecurities and he finally opened up and started showing his excitement.
Your husband might be an ass, but there also may be something else going on behind the scenes.
I agree there maybe another issue as weĺl. With my first pregnancy my hubby wasnt as excited as what I thought he wouldve been. Turned out he was worried. Second pregnacy (after a miscarriage) he was even less excited. He was scared to death of another miscarriage and if it happened how I wouldve coped. But he is the most fantastic father to both our girls.
My husband found it hard to get so attached to our children while i was pregnant. Even tho he used to feel them move ect he just didnt get that parent feeling till they where born. After that he was very hands on.
'Women become mothers the moment they are pregnant. Men become fathers the second the baby is in their arms'.
Some men just don't know how to express their emotions when it comes to pregnancy. They aren't really thinking about "the baby is the size of a kiwi fruit" this week. They're thinking about "how am I going to provide for the family by myself"? "What if I lose my job"? "Baby stuff is expensive "....etc.
just reassure him that you will manage fine (financially) and that he shouldn't worry.
My partner didn't really show interest until we found out the sex at 18 weeks. We had both become suddenly unemployed the month we found out we were expecting. So he was far from excited because how would he provide? (Thankfully got a fantastic job before the 18 week Mark. So calmed down).
I dont think he is being an ass. My hubby is the same. Im 25 weeks along with our second and he is showing no interest at all, hasnt been to one ultrasound. He wasnt interested in our first pregnancy either but as soon as he met our little man he was totally in love. And still is 7 years later. Men will be men!