How did you know you were done having children? I know it's been asked before, but I'm so torn! Reasons for no more: finance situation, we would have to upgrade our car, outnumbered children to adults, going through the sleepless ness and stress of a new baby, I had so much trouble breastfeeding both my children and I just don't want to go back to a newborn.
BUT - I really really want another baby! I can't win, I'm constantly having a battle in my head! Partner would happily have 4! And I would need to have 4 - can't do uneven numbers!
I also suffered bad PND with my second who is still no sleeping thru - we are working on that! I have a 2.5 yr old girl and a 1.5yr old boy already!
HELP!!
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Those problems are only issues in your head because you don't have the baby yet. It's practical stuff that you would figure out once you got pregnant. The love for the baby would make it worthwhile. As for the pnd now you know it's a possibility I'm sure you can keep on top of that next time with frequent doctors visits etc. If having another baby means that much to you then everything else will fall into place:)
I hate the newborn stage! And never really feel myself wanting another baby. I think by the sounds of your post you're not done because I can tell you this isn't even a question in my mind because I 100% know I am done!
I wanted more, but made a decision to stop anyway. Yes there were tears, but it was best for everyone to stop. Never regretted the decision.
I was the same as you. I already had 3 and never ever imagined I would have any more. But there was something missing, I felt it. I was always tossing the idea around and it wasn't until I did have my 4th baby that I realised she was what was missing in my life and our family.
She totally completes us and I now feel completely done. She is my baby. Yes it was a tough time, we had to upgrade the car and adjust our budget but you just do it. I wouldn't change anything now. I say go for it, you will always wonder what if and thats not a life to live.
I also had bad pnd with my 2nd and always had issues breastfeeding but you know what, I never got pnd with my 4th. I was way more relaxed and even though I still never got the breastfeeding thing, I am so proud that I still managed 10 mths of exclusively pumping for her.
Good luck with your decision.
Maybe you could wait until your oldest is at kindy/prep (whichever your state call it). Why would you need a new car of you are only going from 2 to 3.?? We are going from 2 to 3 and won't be upgrdaing. It will be a bit of a squeeze but we will all fit and we will just make do for now. You will adjust your budget to accommodate the 3rd. If youbare so torn and deeling incomplete it is a decision you will regret later. The love of the child will make absolutely everything well worth it. I'm so grateful for my husband coming around to the idea of having another, as baby isn't even here yet and I just feel everything is as it should be. Goodluck with your choice.
I'm currently pregnant with no.4 We have been planning for the past year, took a long time to agree. Funny thing we decided last week not but already to late lol. I just know this is my last. I wasso stress ed d with 3 but had a very strong urge for another. That urge is no longer there. We purchased a second hand 7 seater yesterday. It took a awhile to find one and took out a lone to afford it. I don't think going from 3 to 4 will be that bad. I'll see though haha