I'm asking other mums on here- what would you do to improve your life? I'm feeling stuck in a rut, stressed, tired, lonely and unhappy. I have 3 kids under 3. When I was in hospital for #3 I had to pay someone to stay with my other kids (which I had to save up for and hurry home). Just that fact alone makes me sad. I was also alone giving birth. I have been single& alone with the kids since I fell pregnant with the twins. #3 was not the result of a night out (don't wanna go into detail) I cannot go out due to bed time routines and when everyone is finally asleep I go to bed soon after as I'm just tired. My kids do day care but I still always have 1-3 kids at home every day and all every night/morning/weekends/holidays. If I need to drop off just one at day care I have to take all the little ones with me, in and out of the car, every single time. I'm just a bit over it all.There is so much work to do cleaning up after the kids, washing, cooking, cleaning, beds, doing the lawn, vaccinations and check ups. It's never ending. My family live overseas and I cannot even visit. due to kids ages (3 in nappies, airport 4hrs away, kids fighting in the car etc) The kids' father is not involved. I live in a small country town as rent is cheaper and attend playgroups. I still don't have any "friends". Just mums you greet and do small talk but everyone is busy with partner& family otherwise. I'm feeling very lonely. I would love to loose weight and go to the gym but the creche is only for full membership attendants and they don't take 3 in nappies there anyway. I go for a walk once a week when I only have the baby at home. I'd just like to do more for myself but just don't know how. I'll also have my subsidized daycare hours reduced soon as I have been informed by Family Assistance I need to be working/studying. I wouldn't even know how and when. I'm just asking you Imperfect Mums- what would you do? What am I doing wrong with my life? All I want is to have a loving partner, friends& my kids in the future.
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Having 1 child under three is hard work, having 2 under three is even harder and three and three is effing hard work. The under three age period is the hardest time for a parent. Kids that age need to be watched all the time and they just are exhausting. You can't get 10 minutes to yourself!
What I would honestly do (if you can) is get them into daycare on the same day. Give yourself one full day for you.
Then I'd see if I could find myself a second hand treadmill, put it in the lounge room, put the kids in a play pen with the tv and start walking. Or I'd load them up in the stroller and go for a walk.
But getting that one full day to yourself would make a massive difference to how you feel. It can be really hard as a single mum, I get it, been there have the medal! I'd look up on the meet-up app for single parents groups, parents without partners etc. they can be really supportive.