Does anyone ever feel like they dont know what they are doing with their life? I have a partner & 2 kids. We haved moved around quite alot in the last 7 years due to his career, but now that we have settled down in his home town, and eldest child in kindy with all this free time due to his family seeing the kids alot im questioning what am i doing with my life. I put all my effort the last 5 years into my kids 100% and on the way lost my identity completely. I havent worked since pre-kids and struggling to find a job with this town being so small let alone know what career i want to study. I have no hobbies apart from reading novels and taking videos of the kids. I sound like such a boring person for only 24 years old. I barely have any friends, most i keep in contact online due to moving away. My partner has hobbies and friends. When i go to lunch with his mother or sister all i have to talk about is parenting and i feel like im boring the shit outta them. How has my life come to this?
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I'm sorry I don't have any good advice but just wanted to say that I feel the same and I don't eve have kids yet! I'm 25 and find myself going through day to day with no purpose or no idea what I'm doing or what I want to do! It's literally just work eat clean sleep repeat. My partner has a job that he enjoys and does huge hours so I spend a lot of time alone, we are in a small town too and I don't really have many friends or anyone close by. He is overseas at the moment and calls me everyday and the last couple of days I don't even want to answer because I literally have nothing to talk about.
I did start studying this year to get into a different career but I'm half way through it now and questioning if I even still want to do it and thinking I'll be no good at it, then on other days I so passionate and motivated to get it done.
Are there any clubs you can join in town? Would you play any type of sport? Is it possible to turn any of your hobbies into a small business? I have found that the only way to make friends in these country towns when you didn't grow up here is to join a sport team (or your partner can join one), or be in a mothers group. Both aren't for me so I am pretty screwed!
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Hi there friend! I know exactly what you are saying because I have been there myself. I do have some great answers and help to give. I am a Life Coach with a passion to help women to discover or rediscover their purpose and passions in life. I will be at the Empowering Women's conference with Kristy in Townsville in August. If you are planning to be there (if you happen by chance to live in Townsville...) come and say hi. Otherwise visit my website at www.fulfilled-life.com where you can join to receive some helpful blogs. Don't lose hope!!! There is a strategic way to find what you are looking for :)
Bravo for recognizing it! I see this all to often with family members. I've always tried to maintain my own identity after having kids as i have seen other women have kids who moved out of home and they are completely lost. They have no life, no friends, no job. Youre only 24 and your kids are still little! Atleast it's only been 5 yrs out of the game and not 18. Now is the time to get out there and learn about yourself. You don't have hobbies but now is your time to explore and find new ones. Go out for little day trips even if it is just to the library or park. Volunteer, arts and crafts at home, online community groups, get a very small part time job (even if it's 1 3 hour shift at the local grocery store). Offer to do laundry or cleaning or babysitting for anyone in the community. It will keep you busy, help connect with community, something to add to resume, bring in extra cash. Do a small online course. Sometimes local community centres even have short 1 day courses like first aid. There's so many options...you just have to try 1 thing at a time. Good luck
I feel like I could have wrote this only a few years ago!!
I was literally just a mum. And I didn't like it. When I spoke to my friends they'd tell me I was a great mum but I wanted to be more!!
I did find myself a casual job, which turned into part time and now I'm full time and in uni. I started looking around to find hobbies for myself, and I tried so many different things! It took me 3 years of trying different hobbies before I actually found 3 that I love and am completely happy with.
Things will get better, try new things, apply for random jobs, attend playgroups, or just rock up to libraries and parks, you will slowly find someone who you can become friends with. I had no friends for 5 years, now I have one good friend and know a lot of people just threw my job, Uni, hobbies and kids. It's just a matter of throwing yourself out there.
The only reason I even got my starting casual job was I was attending a birthday party and was offered a job! Sometimes life just happens for us :)