Hi! I have just found out I'm 5-6 weeks pregnant (surprise). I will go for a dating scan in the next few weeks to confirm dates, but at the moment my doctor has told me I will be due around the end of March.
Bit of background info... I have a 5yo daughter and have been with my partner for just over a year. Have known him since high school. He is very excited about the pregnancy. I am also a teacher.
My issue is... I am excited about this pregnancy but I'm also feeling really cranky and upset that my life is going to have such a drastic change! I have been at my current job for 2 years and I feel like life is only just falling into place. My daughter starts prep next year and one more year at my job means I would have gained a permanent position (I'm on contract at the moment), and now I'm pregnant which means I won't be able to work next year (due in term 1). I'll also have to enrol my daughter into a different school - the one in my catchment area, as our plan was for her to come to the school I worked at. My other issue is that I'm not eligible for paid parental leave as I'll have to finish work in December but won't have the baby until March. I'm so stressed thinking about what my financial situation is going to be like.
I feel selfish for feeling like this! :( it just feels like the worst timing to be pregnant at the moment. We wanted to have children, I guess I just didn't realise it would happen so soon. I feel horrible. When I was pregnant with my daughter I was over the moon from the day I found out. I just feel so stressed because so much will be changing.
Sorry it's long! Any advice or lovely comments would be great x
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It will all work out. Once you sit down with your partner and know the plan and nut out the details you'll feel so much better.
Yep your partner is going to have to step up financially and adjustments will be made. You'll be ok.
I understand the feeling and it does pass, but also with the second child we are far more aware of the realities versus the niavity that comes with having a first!
There's still time for you to figure out what you want to do.... if it really isn't the right time and you're open to it then there is the other option.