I went to FIL's yesterday, my 2 year old son is being toilet trained. He wet his pants, I stupidly forgot to pack spare clothes, so he was running around the house in just his shirt, no pants.
The whole time I was there, all I heard was put it away, I don't want to see that, its embarrassing etc.
I feel stupid now, because I never said anything, but now I think, he is 2 not 22, and it was his grandparents house, not like he was out in public, I'm so angry.
Am I wrong to feel this way?
kids naked at grandparents?
kids naked at grandparents?
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Parenthood Guilt, Behaviour, Kids
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Exactly right! He's not 22! Being naked is how we were born, it's completely natural & toddlers don't know any better! They don't have to have any pride at their age! Next time if FIL says it again I would calmly say 'it's not embarrassing, he's only 2!' Obviously if it's embarrassing for your FIL then he's looking at it in an inappropriate way!
I have to disagree. I wouldn't want to have a child even my own running around with no pants on. It was not your house & obviously made him uncomfortable. That does not mean he's looking at anything inappropriately as stated by someone. If you didn't like it you should have left. He didn't have a choice to leave because it was his house.
To play devil's advocate, maybe he was concerned about an accident on the carpet or furniture? What ever the reason I don't see it as a huge deal.
I think this is one of those things you need to be respectful of the place you are in. My 3yo is lucky to be in clothes at home and at his grandparents, yesterday he walked into his grandparents stripped off and announced he was a 'nudey bottom'! My inlaws also keep a store of clothes for my kids. I would be a bit annoyed if my kids grandparents were acting like that but I probably wouldn't take my kids there as often if they were up tight about those sort of things. In saying all of that, I know my FIL isn't so keen on it but he just bites his tongue. My brother was staying with me and used to say 'where are your clothes whenever my son was naked' my son is now very self conscious and in front of anyone but us and his grand parents always asks for shorts on, I HATE this as he is so young and shouldn't worry about this yet. My advice would be: either keep a spare set of clothes there and try and keep clothes on to avoid this in the future or say how you feel and try to come to an arrangement.
I get cranky when close relatives go on about it too. It's only a little penis, it's not a sexual act or anything.
But I do think it's probably a generation thing. Back in his day maybe it wasn't done.
OMG seriously his a toddler their is nothing wrong with them running around naked sorry but your FIL needs to grow up.