I have a 2 and a half year old and a nearly 5 year old. I'm currently studying 5 days a week and working 2-3 days. I feel as though I don't see my kids enough and that I am just doing this for myself. I know my job prospects will be much better in the future as I currently have no qualifications but I feel as though this is an important time in my kids lives and they are only this young once. By the time I have finished studying both kids will be in school. I have the mummy guilts big time and I miss them SO much.not to mention financially we are struggling. I get so bad sometimes I get close to withdrawing from study. What should I do?
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If you think it's too much then it is. Key word "you" personally I've put my life on hold because I believe the first years are very important. It's probably best that you quit your job before your study though. Study will keep your resume open and study will give you better jobs in future. I wish my mum didn't have to work as much as she did. But she didn't have as much choice as parents do these days. So I'm staying home for my son with casual work.
I think if you give up now and wait a few years than at that time you will find another reason not to study (ie there will never be a good enough time to do it). Personally i would get the study done so that you can start working in your chosen field and start building a career.
Both my parents worked and it did me no harm.
I study too and am looking for some casual work, I have two kids (one at school though) and although I feel overloaded at times I think it's so important to teach your kids about work and achieving dreams through hard work, I know it gives you the guilts but right now you aren't doing it for you, your doing it for your family and their future and you should be so proud of that! Kids crave quality time over quantity so just make sure you can do something special with them when you can and if it doesn't improve try and have a chat with who your studying through ( not sure if it works the same through different providers but most are flexible ) and ease your study load or defer a year, it's so hard balancing everything especially with financial strain, but just follow your heart and you will know what path to take, best luck to you