Hi mums,
I am really struggling with my children (more so my two older ones 8&5). I have 50/50 of my eldest (8 boy) and my other two (girl 5 & boy 3) live with me full time. When it's just my two younger kids the house n my mind seem to be more calm n relaxed. When my eldest comes home it's like for a whole week I am cranky, yelling & upset. My eldest two fight, bicker, whinge n compete about everything 80% of the day. I am feel to the point I don't want to parent them anymore cause I can't cope with the constant crap. I know parenting isn't any easy walk in the park but lately I feel like it's harder then ever. I need tips & tools in how to deal with this coz I just constantly get so upset n frustrated all I end up doing is yelling. I try and be a persistent with discipline as I can without constantly being a grouchy mum.
PLEASE HELP ME.. I really don't know how much more I can take. TIA
Is this all being a mum means?
Is this all being a mum means?
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Ok it's pretty normal for older children to fight.
Things I would try, making sure all the children get some time with mum alone at some point during a month. I think that's probably extra important for Mr 8. He had you to himself for 3 years and the other two get you for a longer amount of time.
What specifically are the fights over? Is it toys? Is it that one child won't share toys? Does mr 8 have his own toys at your house, or are they taken over by miss 5 when he isn't there?
Think about things from there point of view. Ask them questions about why they fight. It will give you some insight in to how to change the situation.