Okay so I don't know if I'm over reacting and I've never asked a question before so bear with me I hope I can explain this right. I'm a single mum with two kids one of them has extra special needs. I'm working part time 20 hours a week not complaining either I am very lucky to have my job. So I'm getting on me feet and trying to get by. Anyways not long ago I went out to lunch with a friend and her sister. We enjoyed a meal and a laugh and as I had canceled so many times and was feeling lonely I debited my account to withdraw a few dollars for some lunch. I figured I never do it so I want to spoil myself. At the end of the meal it was time to pay we decided we would pay for what we ordered. My total was 21.50 so I handed her 25 dollars, her sister had a small meal and it was 14 something so she handed her 15. She offered to go and sort the bill out and I was feeling rather full so I said okay, so off she goes it's only a small little cafe so you can here her laughing and talking to the lady at the till. I made a comment about them being friendly and she said they were best friends in high School. I thought ok how nice. I then heard her give her the total, she said look just give me 20 bucks and more giggles. I'm thinking wow nice that's generous! She pays and puts the reciept in the trash, I notice her putting the rest of the money in her wallet then comes back to the table with a big smile looking like she was feeling accomplished. And said "it's all taken care of." That was it, she never mentioned the fact that she got a discount didn't have to pay full price! Am I wrong in feeling angry that she pretty much didn't pay for anything and is she wrong in doing that when she knows my situation and my struggle and she has a full time job no kids and lives at home with mum and sister :(
Don't even know! Just help :(
Don't even know! Just help :(
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Bloody annoying!!!!!
I have a friend like that. I like her, with everything other than money! So I never allow our money to get inter twined anymore. I will never buy her a coffee, order for her or anything.
If we go out to eat I go to one of those places that allow you to pay your own at the counter when you order.
It took me a few times to learn. I am happy to shout a coffee with a friend because I know at some point the favour will be returned, not with this friend though.
Could you have overheard half a conversation? Like was the lunch paid for and she was getting something else (they're friends, how do you know it wasn't an avon order or something they were discussing?). If it was lunch, let it go as a lesson learned. You enjoyed the meal and that's what it cost, who you paid it to is immaterial but if you know this to be true then just don't do it again, go and pay for your own meal.
It is a shame that some people dont realise that every dollar matters. If she got mates rates, then she should have made the discount so that YOU didnt have to pay the full amount. Not worth losing friends over... but I would be annoyed too!
You could have overheard things wrong, or maybe you didn't. Unfortunately people have different ideas and attitudes towards money. It may not have been malicious - it astounds me but some people genuinely don't realise how their actions could impact someone else and are mortified when they find out they've offended someone. Some people know exactly what they're doing. Money is tight for me too so I get how valuable every cent is. Personally, I wouldn't have done what your friend did. But not because you're in a different financial situation to her, just because to me it's not the right thing to do.