Dealing with life's challenges

Anon Imperfect Mum

Dealing with life's challenges

So bit of background - the last few months have been challenging for my family and I've always been the support for everyone around including friends. Then my whole world was turned upside down when depression took over my family and send my partner into a horrible downward spiral, we've been in and out of hospital for sucicide attempts, counseling, anti depressants - you name it, throw being new parents into the mix of that as well, unfortunately I've gone back to work full time to help take the weight off my partner while he rebuilds his life and deals with his demons.

But my job is hard, long hours, brain sucking madness, I leave before my child wakes up and am home after they go to sleep, my partner is trying to help as much as he can around the house but some days battling his demons, a toddle and house work is impossible (understandable) so I pick up the slack once I'm home.

I've tried to put a routine in place but everyday changes, moods, mountains we have to climb, my work hours, it's hard to stick to a routine and I'm trying my absoutle best to support my family both emotionally and financially but im exhausted, I'm making so many sacrifices and it's hard, I put on a brave face and get on with it, but I can feel myself about to break a little more everyday when I'm faced with a new shitty challenge, I am as open as I can be with my partner and he does try to support me but his in no frame of mind to have me relying on him emotionally at the moment, does any one have any advice for me and how to manage this all better, I do see a counsellor also but still find that I'm drowning trying to keep afloat.

Maybe I can try some thing else, something that might work for you, that gets you through the shit times. Any advice would be fantastic. X

Posted in:  Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Self Care

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Is there someone outside of your little family that could help out around the house. Honestly I find practical support in these times the best strategy!
Look at your local council website and see what services they offer for those with illness/disability and there carers. You might find you can access a bunch of short term support. Like house cleaners, gardening services etc. Someone to do the food shopping etc (or shop online). Those little things make a huge difference in your ability to cope.

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