Hi sisters, I need help not judgement. I had my nuchal scan for my second child today and came back 1 in 106 chance of Down Syndrome - so high risk. I know it's fresh but my mind can't stop running. I don't know it's fair to do that to our first child - I know other families where whilst there is love there is also resentment. I know other people who have told me that if they had known they wouldn't have gone through with the pregnancy. I fell in love with the little baby on the screen instantly but don't know what the kindest thing is to do for bubs and our family. Has anyone else been in this situation got some insight for me?
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I doubt anyone could possibly say yay or nay and have it be the right answer, this one is just too personal. The kindest thing will depend on your knowledge of your personal capabilities and support network. I don't envy your choice but I wish you well and peace with whatever you decide on.
My heart goes out to you mumma. It's not an easy choice. I have been in that same situation only our odds were 1:2 and our little princess turned out the be the one who had downs. My advice would be to consider having and amniocentesis or a CVS. Either of these test will 100% confirm whether or not your baby does have downs. For my husband and I we researched as much as we could about Down's syndrome and once our girl was diagnosed we decided the best choice was to terminate our pregnancy. It was in no way an easy decision to make but it's been 2 years now and I'm 100% sure we made the right decision not only for our baby but for our daughter we already had and for ourselves too. Take the time you need to research, discuss with your partner and most importantly lean on each other and be there for each other. I'll keep everything crossed for a positive outcome for you!
Hi, I was in the same position as you a couple of weeks ago. I got a 1/297 chance, which is also considered high especially because Im only in my early 20s. I saw an OB a few days later who took a more indepth ultrasound and said everything looks fine and she highly doubts my baby has down syndrome because she could see a nose bridge. She said the reason my test came back high was mainly because my PAPP A was low in my blood. But this could mean a number of things, not just down syndrome. It could mean I might develop preclampsia, or have a premmie, or it could mean nothing. I just have to have regular ultrasounds throughout my pregnancy to make sure everything is ok. I know how you feel and it sucks but try not to worry. I googled it soo much when they gave me my results and the amount of people who have high risk pregnancies that go on to have perfectly normal babies is massive. Good luck.
I had simlar reault however i continued with preganacy.
I knew my lil bub would be okay cause i have speny my life with special needs kids.
However such an important decision. You need yo do what right for u and what u can live with or without.
Good luck such a tough decision.
And my lil man came out with out down syndrome.
I also had a high risk in my last pregnancy but didn't want to have an amniocentesis for risk of miss carrying a perfectly healthy baby. There is now a test called NIPT - non invasive paternity test. It's 1% less accurate then an amniocentesis. Maybe if you were to have this and know more accurately it could help in your decision. It isn't cheap (about $750) and non of it is claimable but I think it's worth it. I went straight for the test this pregnancy as it can be done from 10 weeks. Good luck xx
I also had a high risk in my last pregnancy but didn't want to have an amniocentesis for risk of miss carrying a perfectly healthy baby. There is now a test called NIPT - non invasive paternity test. It's 1% less accurate then an amniocentesis. Maybe if you were to have this and know more accurately it could help in your decision. It isn't cheap (about $750) and none of it is claimable but I think it's worth it. I went straight for the test this pregnancy as it can be done from 10 weeks. Good luck xx