Need some advice.
Been reason a lot of comments on here about leaving their partners because they are no longer happy.
The deliemma I have is that I love my partner more than anything. Just parenthood and the stress of dealing with his ex goin to court and all the issues my beautiful step kids have.
I have PTSD and I suffered post natal depression after my last bub 9months ago. I had a lot of issues closed behind a big door. And last year my miss 5 told me her grandfather had touched her. My gates came bursting open and all
My issues I thought I had dealt
With and closed off have come flooding back. I felt like such a failure as it was my job to protect her and I failed. He won't be prosecuted because of her age and their isn't enough evidence and she can't provide a date. She was 4 when he did this. I am currently seeing a a psychologist. Helping with the trauma I have but their is so many triggers. I am depressed constantly an I constantly want to leave. Not because I for love him but I hate he person I have become. I am always angry and exhausted. I don't want to be a mum anymore. And I know I get up them for silly things but I'm so anxious. Court coming up. If they go back into her care even for visitation I'm not sure I could do it. She crews with their heads so much and they already have so many issues from her. They are seeing a psychologist also. They are happier and healthier without her in their lives but they love her. They had every right too but she doesn't deserve them. And the courts like to keep parents in kids lives. I get that's all well and good but this person mentally and emotionally screws their heads up everytime she sees them which makes my job harder and I don't want to be around them. I love them I really do otherwise I wouldn't exhaust myself like I do for them but I'm slowly breaking and now all of the kids have to deal with the shell of a mum I used to be.
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Your partner needs to lift your load. Please talk to him. If he can take some leave from work, or can shorten his hours at work, he needs to do that.
He needs to parent his own children while you go through this. If you were not in the picture he'd be 100% responsible for his kids, so to ask him to do more at this difficult time is not unreasonable.
I'm not saying you leave, I'm saying your partner needs to be a lot more hands on while you get your head sorted. If thst means the kids need to be in after school services/daycare etc to give you the room to heal then so be it.