I've been trying to fall pregnant since 2012. I have PCOS and a blood clotting gene. I've had 6 miscarriages and I never make it past 7 weeks. I don't have cysts on my ovaries anymore but still have all the other symptoms. Also had clexane for the clotting and still can't carry.
My husband loves me but is that enough he desperately wants to have children that I clearly can't give him. He's a lot younger than I am. It's not his fault and I'm taking that chance away from him. I feel I should leave.
I guess I'm asking if anyone else has felt this way and what happened.
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People do get past this. And get past not having kids.
I think ultimately this is your husbands choice to make.
Your marriage vows say "In sickness and health, for better or worse." I hope that he stays. This is not your fault.
I know people who have had multiple miscarriages who go on to conceive. And I know people who have adopted or fostered. There are other options. Best wishes xx
No, I wouldn't and you shouldn't either. It is not up to you to make that decision for your husband. Only he can. While it would be devastating if you couldn't have kids, couples can and do move on together. Talk to him about how you are feeling guilty and hopefully he can provide you with some comfort and alleviate your guilt. I think you should also ask yourself if you'd want your husband to leave you if he had fertility issues - would you want him making that choice for you? I'm guessing no.