I have been with my partner for close to 10 years. We have 1 child under 2. I would love to have 1, maybe 2 more kids but due to personal reasons I only have max 3 years left to have them/be pregnant.
My dilemma is - I don't think I love my partner anymore. I think the love has been gone for a long time, and I have been trying to try and get it back.
If we split then my chances of having another child are pretty low. I would want to be single for a while and then if I did find a new partner I would want to be with them for a while before bringing a baby into it.
Honestly I would be crushed if I never had another baby, but I also worry about bringing a baby into a relationship that is likely to end.
I just don't know what to do. I'm so torn.
I think if I try and talk to my partner about any of this that he won't want to fight for the relationship at all and that will be the end of us.
It's such a crappy situation :(
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Ahh that sucks I can understand why you are torn.
Personally I couldn't bring another child into a relationship under those circumstances either. It's just not fair to anyone, and personally to do it deliberately when you have one foot out the door is sneaky. So I totally get why you are torn.
As someone who didn't have the number of kids I wanted. I stopped at one due to circumstances beyond my control (medical). Yes it was sad and I grieved but I did get through it and have led a perfectly fulfilling life.