Hi IM's, i just wanted to see if any of you have any tips for co-parenting when one parent seems to want to fight more than parent. My ex-husband and i split when our little girl was only 3 months, his choice due to his mistakes with addictions, lies and infidelity. She is nearly 2 now and he does nothing but try and pick a fight over ANYTHING, criticise and name call. Him and i have both moved on with other people and i don't want his drama causing issues with my new partner. I guess i want to know if anyone is in a similar situation and if so how do you deal with the constant negativity, he calls me "pathetic, a piece of shit" and much more regularly to the point where i start feeling terrible about myself, how do i learn to brush it off and not let it effect my day to day life? *Foot note, he is blocked on my phone and knows he needs to send urgent matters to my mother but still finds ways to get to me through social media posts/face to face conflict etc* I dont expect him to change as a person but hoping for some advice on how to not let it get to me as much! Thanks ladies
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Why do you have any contact with him? Stop contact. Set up exchanges of care so you don't see each other. If that means going to mediation get the process started. Get a third party to pick up/drop off. Start a communication book for any info you need to exchange regarding your child.
If he is ringing your mobile/texting abuse use your current number in a cheap $40 phone. Turn it off and put it away somewhere only check it once a day, don't respond to any contact that isn't constructive about your daughter. Get a new phone number for the regular people in your life and don't give your ex the number.