Why can i not leave??
Okay so i have been with my parter for over 2 years we have 2 children together and both have children from past relationships. So i found out he cheated on me and then found out it was more times then he first admitted to and then found out again that it has been 5 or more times with the same person. He hasnt cheated since about a year ago and since proposed to me (before i new about the cheating). But he continues to lie about bills and money and people knowing about the cheating ect. Oh i am also not aloud to still be left alone with his child (his ex says so) and he nevet sticka up for me about it and makes me feel so belittled. We start couples counseling soon, but im so hurt but i just cant understand why i am still with him. I love him so much and he is a fantastic dad but why do i let myself be treated this way? Has anyone been in this situation and gotten past it? Just feeling hurt and confused.
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Is he really a fantastic dad? Disrespecting their mum & risking their whole household , living life that will all change suddenly on any day because of his lies and cheating?
Do you really love him? Do you love what he could be if he wasn't this. The potential you see if the negative factor's weren't there? But they are.
I tried. But over time I couldn't get over the hate for him and the way it made me feel to stay. And I don't regret it and wish I had walked first time. Now I see all the love and positives I felt for him were in my imagination & I'd prefer a real man with real love even if its not as exciting, its not as devastating either, its real and reliable.
Couldn't agree more!
Good dads don't lie and cheat. They don't disrespect there babies mum, they don't put there financial health in danger by lying about finances.
You love who you thought he was or who you wish he could be. He isn't that person.
If he is continuing to lie, marraige counselling won't work.
Hun if you're in couples counselling before you guys are even married thats a big red flag! I think you know its a shit relationship and that you deserve better.
I dont know why you can't leave, maybe because you are afraid of the unknown? Or waiting for him to change? He wont though. He may stop cheating but will never stop lying.