Hi mums! Any swinging couples on here? I've always been interested in going to a swingers bar but have no idea what to expect, where to go, what to wear, is it safe etc! I'm actually a single mum so not looking for advise for couples. I don't necessarily want to go and sleep with anyone or multiple people, just want to see what it's all about. Don't have any male friends that I'd want to bring along for safety. I live in Sydney If anyone has any recommendations.
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Be prepared for a lot of old unattractive people and been hit on even more so because you would be coming as a single female. No advice sorry hahahaha just my personal experience was not great (in Melbourne). I would try if possible to find someone to escort you there or even a couple you could tag along with. Everyone is very friendly but it can be quite intimidating for a first timer with no back up...
Secret Spot is good or Couples Club... have been to both and I prefer Secret Spot. Just feels cleaner to me. There's a lot of older unattractive people... but usually some not so bad. If you have likeminded friends and couples to take along its lots of fun. There's usually bar area, lounge type thing for conversation, spa and the different fetish rooms or areas for playing. Showers are mandatory and once you're in the play area you are naked or in lingerie only so noone is hiding anything...
Yeah its good fun.. i had to come here to reply as i dont want it on my news feed but if you can find me on facebook feel free to pm me i am single and go regularly although i'm in brisbane- i have only ever played there maybe once out of every 10 or so visits .. no means no and most of those places are pretty good with enforcing that .. if you do decide to play with someone i recommend leaving the door open and chained just from a safety perspective (which is allowed they will explain when you get to the club that you can have open door where people can join .. open door with a chain across means people can watch but not join and closed doors is self explanatory..a chained door well whoever you are with is less likely to misbehave if there is the chance they may be seen doing the wrong thing..obviously though this allows people to see you having sex so you have to decide if you're cool with that... i actually find it to be very social most of them don't allow phones to be used inside so people actually TALK to each other.. . see if you can find a local swinging group on facebook and team up with some people from the group to go . maybe try this one https://www.facebook.com/groups/1057253217670854/ . What to wear can depend on the club check their website for details but normally safe with a little black dress and heels. one I go to is a bit more .. out there and in part of it you can walk around nude the other half of the club you have to be dressed and most people just wear lingerie - think corset and skirt with fishnets and suspenders / garter belt... a lot of them have fancy dress themed nights too... try and go on a night when they have an event on its always busier then. .