My #2 child is such hard work. She is 4 months old and I am so stressed by her every day. She is super clingy and wants me all day every day. I know that this is considered 'normal behaviour' for an infant, but I can't even put her down on the mat or in the swing to go to the toilet without her screaming the house down. Then to top it off she just won't sleep during the day. I feel like all i have done today is try to get her to sleep and if i do get her down for a nap she wont do more than 30 mins unless i am with her. Except at night, she is actually an ok sleeper at night because she knows i am right there sleeping next to her and will usually only wake once.
I have tried nursing her to sleep and responsive settling. I won't let her CIO because I don't believe in it.
I am literally getting nothing done and feel like i am neglecting #1 child because she takes up so much of my day. I do babywear her a lot because she likes it, but in all honesty, i do t want to have to wear her all day every day.
I am so stressed out by her and I don't know what to do anymore. Tonight I found myself yelling at her to just GTFTS because I need a break from her. I cant leave her with her dad because she just cracks it and as im writing this im listening to him try to settle her with no luck and i know if i walk in to the room she will stop whinging.
I am really regretting having a 2nd child at the moment. Its affecting my relationship with my hubby and my #1 child.
Baby stressing me out.
Baby stressing me out.
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If you can bring yourself to do it, go out for an hour. Just do it, save your sanity for awhile. You need to take a break for your sanity. Save yourself for just an hour.
Then have a chat to hubby about changes that need to be made until you get through this time. If that means he picks up the housework for awhile, so be it. If that means a house cleaner, so be it. If that means hubby cooks all the meals for awhile, so be it.
If that means number one goes to daycare a day or two so be it.
If that means your mum or friend takes over for an hour so you can go for a run, a walk whatever then do it.
Your sanity and your wellbeing is just as important as your babies!