I'm 23 and feel like my life isn't going any where. I'm a single mum and just moved states. Ive been single for over a year never even kissed another man.
I had my life all maped out for as long as I can remember job house marriage kids the whole lot. I almost had the house and I met a man. He took it all and I left when I was pregnant cause he was DV. I don't know what to do with my life now. My son is my world. But I'm in debt not much but I've never been in debt before. My ex looked after my income, his control over me. I had to get a new car reciently. I've stopped breastfeeding and formula adds up. I miss work so much. I dont know if I want to go back to my old carrier or start a new one. The last carrier didn't pay well for what its worth all hard work no pay pretty much, and I have a baby now to provide for his now 8 months. Ive never had confidence either so I've never wanted to try anything new. How do I get out of this rut and decide what to do with my life. To get out of debt and start saving. The bills just keep coming in. And I don't know how to go to work when I feel like I can badly keep up with house work and my son. Some mornings I don't even feel like getting out of bed. I'm 23 and feel so lonely and so scared I will never do my son proud always on centerlink and nothing to my name.
Stuck in a rut
Stuck in a rut
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It's time to see your GP, you sound overwhelmed.
But start with one tiny thing. If that's paying $5 a week off of your debt, that's what it is. If that's to get the dishes done, that's what it is. Once you start to gain some momentum you'll start to feel better.
Getting some counselling afterr a DV situation is pretty important. Processing everything can be tough and your confidence takes a hit.
You are only young, 23 and you don't have to have all the answers right now. But you can achieve your dreams. You might find you discover some new ones and ones you thought were important become not so.
Its difficult when you define your worth and success by things you have, like a house or a husband, then when you don't have these things you'll feel worthless. But you're not. Isn't providing a safe comfortable and happy home for you and your son so important?
Isn't being in a satisfying job more important than just a job? This will take study and freedom to risk take and change jobs to try new things. I think you should reassess your life goals & add some describing words to those things. Then give yourself the time and freedom to work towards them because they have to be right. Not just holding onto the first one that comes along and not changing for fear you'll have none.
So true