Ive tried many times before and i always come back.
What are some things i can do to help me stay away? I feel so unhappy. We fight daily and he constantly threatens me
I dont know why i even come back. I think its that i feel bad that he wont be able to see his daughter when he wants.
I live in perth. Is the anything I can start or go too?
I don't want to live like this anymore.
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Counselling. If he respects you hr will be able to see her. You need to draw your boundaries though. In time he won't see her every day and everyone will be fine with that, just don't let him use it as an excuse to contact you keep the lines drawn and you can be zero contact even with kids involved. I think you need some counselling to help you navigate the way and move yourself forward so you don't get worn down and go back.
Firstly get counselling for yourself. Understanding and processing the feelings of guilt will help. Talk to your GP and contact lifeline they know services in your area.
Secondly recognise that it's damaging your daughter when you stay in this relationship. Children who grow up in abusive homes are more likely to have abusive relationships as adults as it becomes there normal. Your daughter has to come before your partner/ex. So keep repeating that mantra.
Thirdly there are always consequences to actions. His actions are that he is abusive which is damaging you and his daughter. The consequences for that behaviour is that he doesn't see his daughter everyday. You have nothing to feel guilty for, he had done this to himself!
I think i read somewhere that it takes on average 7 attempts at leaving an abusive relationship before being successful in restarting your life. My advice is to make yourself familiar with local womens shelters, centrelink helplines, start confiding in some people you trust. I found that when others reacted to what i was saying, it seemed to hit me about how things really were. Good luck.