I found out 4 days ago that I'm pregnant. My husband and I were TTC so it was definitely happy news. But now I'm struggling because I have to contain my excitement for another 7 weeks. I want to scream it from the rooftops, but at the same time I want to wait until the safe point in case something happens. My husband is wonderful but he's a man of few words so I don't feel that talking with him is giving me what I need at the moment (don't read too much into that, he's just very introverted and was not raised in a family that spoke openly of their feelings so he's new to it - he is genuinely excited about becoming a dad but is happy for the conversation to end there).
My question(s) is, how have you managed to keep it in? Did you employ strategies to hide it from family and friends? Did you tell a select few? Did the time between finding out and announcing it drag by slowly or did it fly?
Thanks in advance :)
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I didn't keep it in. Something happening like a miscarriage is nothing to be ashamed of so I saw no reason to keep a pregnancy secret just in case.
So I told the people I wanted to tell. I didn't do any grand announcement, never occurred to me. Just told my immediate family and friends and then let the news travel.
We found out at 3 weeks 4 days and knowing so early did make it feel like it was dragging. We are 15+2 now and I look back and think it's gone pretty quick! I told my best friend and sister at 5ish weeks, one set of IL's at 8 weeks, the other set at 9 weeks, BIL and SIL at 10 weeks. We told eveyone else after our 12 week scan. I even waited to tell my mum (because she can't keep secrets very well). I did struggle with not telling people during the first trimester, we were so happy and wanted people to know about our baby but I also didn't want to have to tell everyone if something had happened. The people we did tell early we were comfortable telling if something happened.
Tell a few people, I only told close friends in real life and their partners. Its nice to tell and share it with a few. Then make it public when you're comfortable to
We told family at 6 weeks, and friends/workmates after the 3 mth mark.
I told most people at around 7 weeks with my first 2 as thats when I had my first ultrasound to confirm how far along I was. Third bub i told everyone around 8-10 weeks but only because life was so hectic at that time so I waited for it to calm down a bit first haha.
I was to excited to not say anything! Plus if something bad happened i would rather people know so tjat I had the support if i needed it.
I personally think it's fine to tell a few close friends or family and ask them not to tell anyone else..and like a few others have said if you were to miscarry you've got friends and family to be there for you. ...I also love the phone app 'pink pad' its great and you can announce it on there and talk to others in the same position. Good luck xx
I personally think it's fine to tell a few close friends or family and ask them not to tell anyone else..and like a few others have said if you were to miscarry you've got friends and family to be there for you. ...I also love the phone app 'pink pad' its great and you can announce it on there and talk to others in the same position. Good luck xx
I personally think it's fine to tell a few close friends or family and ask them not to tell anyone else..and like a few others have said if you were to miscarry you've got friends and family to be there for you. ...I also love the phone app 'pink pad' its great and you can announce it on there and talk to others in the same position. Good luck xx
I had 4 babies and 1 missacrriage. The miscarriage was very early like 5 weeks so noone really knew about but with all my babies i never kept it a secret long. Maybe a day or so then i told people. The way i look at it if you do lose it you would want ppl there to understand why your upset and be there for you but if its a secret then no one can help you.
Congratulations ! That's very exciting for you !!! I wish you all the best for your pregnancy :) :)
As for telling people if you really want to share it if suggest thinking of the people that you would be comfortable telling and seeking support from if (big IF) you were to miscarry and just share the news with them ! That way you can chat about it with those close to you but not have to face the world if something does happen .
You can also join forums where there are also people who have just found out they are pregnant ! I think I joined one through essential baby and it was a 'due in [insert month] ' group ! These ladies fast became my friends and we still now chat and support eachother and our kids are now 5years old :) :) it's a great way to chat about all things baby and not annoy anyone ;)
Good luck !!!
I kept in it from my family until I was 14 weeks pregnant! My husband and I just had told one or two every close friends we see all the time and other then that we maintained our excitement together! Friends and family faces were priceless when we did finally tell them. Specially once they new how far along we were! So worth the wait, to be in the safe zone!
My best friend and hubby (of course) have known from the moment I found out I was pregnant at about 4 weeks (1st day missed period). I had just had a MC and was having complications with this one so we let it to ourselves. We told our parents when we were just over 17 weeks and our grandparents on Mothers' Day at 28 weeks. It's very obvious now that I'm pregnant so anyone who sees me out and about, at our kids school or at work, knows I'm pregnant. We haven't bothered telling anyone else though, including one of our siblings. We have had kids parties and events where a couple people have also found out but many people just don't bother showing up or cancel last minute. Wouldn't want them to start showing up now just because we are expecting, and we have no intention to chase people anymore, so we aren't announcing it on FB or going out of our way to tell anyone else. I must admit, I am starting to burst at the seems a little with impatience and wanting to do the big announcement and the feeing has been so much stronger this past week. I just keep reminding myself that those that matter the most know and it won't be long til we are holding our little bubba in our arms. The announcement isn't that important when I look at the big picture.