Hello IMs
It took 4 years and 9 miscarriages (1 set of twins) for me to get pregnant with my son. I love him and love being a mum. He is almost 3. Husband and I always said we want a big family. We have been trying for over 12 months now and ive had another 2 miscarriages. Ive seen doctor after doctor and all they can tell me is unexplained infertility. Which is the diagnosis i had before my son. They have offered fertility treatment but we cannot afford the many thousands of dollars that will cost (even with private health insurance). I am almost desperate for another child. I love being a mum and i am 100% not finished yet. Husband feels the same way.
How do i move past my feelings? I hate feeling like this. Every month the disappointment of not being pregnant gets to me. Please dont suggest councilling. Tried that and it just made things worse.
I look at my amazing son and an intense fear of him growing up alone comes over me. I dont know where this comes from. Nothing trumatic has happened. I just fear him being alone. I know there are things we can do, groups to join etc. But its not the same
We have applied to be foster parents and also starting the adoption process. But theres a long que.
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My closest friend is a only child. There is no way she feels alone. If anything she is one of those most popular, social people I know. People flock to be around her. She has a large number of very close friends, so much so sometimes I feel I have to book her in way ahead of time.
My son who is 21 is also an only child. He is definitely not alone.
Being an only child does not have to mean lonely, isolated or unsupported. Lots of children grow up as only children and it's not a reason people end up in therapy as adults.
I hope that helps in some way..
Have you been to a naturopath?? A family friend suffered multiple miscarriages went to a naturopath and had a healthy pregnancy and baby within a year of seeing them. Please look into alternative medicine and make sure everything is going right with your body.
Try acupuncture. I also have unexplained fertility and fell pregnant almost immediately after seeing an acupuncturist specialised in fertility and started weekly treatment.
I'm so sorry for all of your losses ? Have you been tested for MTHFR gene mutation? An integrated GP or naturopath can organise pathology for you (testing is usually around $100 I think) these particular mutations are becoming increasingly common and are significantly linked to multiple miscarriage/still birth as it causes an issue with clotting in the placenta. Folic acid (the synthetic form of folate) is toxic to women with this problem - they need methyl folate or folinic acid.
Good luck.