I'm a mum of 3, one in school, one waiting to start school and a new born. Today I hit rock bottom.
I have been less stressed and thoroughly emoting being a mum of 3 and having a new Bub in the house, the older kids love it and partner is enjoying it too. Partner works away. I was worried how I was going to go. Well all was going well, I even got loads of the house chores done, doing the witching hour great! And even did some baking this weekend. Even dealing with 2 big kids and myself sick. Bub is 3.5 weeks.
But today I felt like I failed my eldest son, failing my Bub. It has been a rough(well to me it has) start due to oral thrush x 2, nipple thrush, mastitis and now Bub has high temps. He's been very settled throughout but unsettled today prob die to temps.
Was fully prepared last night. Got lunches done, bags packed for tomorrow. I didn't cut fruit up as it would go yucky. Then son comes home today and with the sad voice and face and says mum I didn't have my morning crunch and sip today I only had my drink bottle. My heart sank.... I didn't do the fruit. My son went hungry until his first lunch break. He hasn't been eating much either as he has been sick so that made me feel worse as I know he will eat more of his fruit than anything :( felt like I failed him so much today my boy my little soul mate as daddy works away. He's my little rock and I felt so shit this arvo. I just couldn't get it right today. I missed it.
Sorry mummies. Not needing help, nor advice just needing reassurance and I know I'm not the only one who has had those days but just feel down tonight. Even though I know everything has been going great since my partner went back to work.
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Tomorrow is another day you will get there!
I've worked in schools. You have not failed. What you did was totally normally. Your child is not damaged by missing fruit one day.
When you become the parent that forgets to send lunch in on a weekly basis then I might consider you to have let your son down. But I can assure you every parent forgets something at least once.
I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes imagining your pain. Hope this makes you feel better, last year I pulled up at the bus stop to drop off my son for the school bus on my way to work. "See you sweetheart, have a good day", then nothing. No grunt, no car door opening, no boot opening to fetch his bag - he wasn't even in the car! Before you scream me down, it was just one of those days. He was year 12 so home alone wasn't the end of the world but I got the car from the garage and drove to the house and popped the boot, he came out, put his bag in the boot and shut it, then came around to the drivers side back door opened it and closed it. I was checking my work emails, I heard the door open and close so I put my phone down and drove to the bus stop. He had in fact opened the door, realised he'd forgotten a permission slip and gone back in the house to get it. I couldn't see because he sits behind me and he never says anything anyway so silence was the norm and I assumed he was there. I was late for work that day, by the time I drove back, picked him up, dropped him at the bus stop, went home and made myself a cup of coffee to get through what was obviously going to be one of those f^&%ing days I ended up being 40 minutes late lol. I felt really bad at the time but I see the humour now. I'm sure I'm not the only one to drop off an invisible silent teenager at the bus stop and I'm sure you're not the first mum to forget some fruit. Don't be hard on yourself, if anything look at it as a learning curve, can you pop something long lasting and maybe not so healthy into his bag that he just eats if you've forgotten his fruit? Like a fruit cup? The ones in coconut water are yummy. Or can you both check his lunch in the morning as part of the routine? Have a checklist he can tick off that all lunch is present and accounted for?