Hi IMs,
I have no idea how to deal with my feelings. I love my daughter(2.5yearold) more then words could ever explain but I just don't want to parent anymore :( I seem to just keep failing and know she would be better some where else. Some where they will give her 100% and not 50%. I honestly just don't know what to do. I try spending time with her and she just turns vicious or gets bored after 5 minutes. I take her out to parks and play centre's and all that but it just doesn't seem enough. I bake at home with her, I color in, make play do and play with her. I play babies, balls and simply just sit down with her reading books and learning numbers.... but what ever I do I just don't seem like I do enough. I don't want her growing up thinking I am a horrible mum or she had a horrible childhood :( ... I got no idea what my question is but maybe I just need to vent. What do you do with your little ones?
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That is the nature of 2.5 year olds! It sounds like you are doing a great job but 2.5 year olds are very very flighty, they lash out, they want the pink plate and then the want the effing blue plate! There is no such thing as enough for a child that age. And guess what it's ok to say you've had enough now and it's time for her to entertain herself for 1/2 hour or so.
It sounds like both of you could do with a breather, what about popping her in daycare one day a week. You need time to be you and she needs time to be without you.
I can tell you now she would not be better off with another parent.
I am looking into day cares atm as I would like her to socialize outside of family and learn new things that I may not think of. Thank you for being so understanding and not jumping down my throat
Great idea... you truly seem to be doing a great job. Take time for yourself as well.
It is 100% normal to question yourself and your parenting, even 18 years down the track! The real shit parents are shit parents because they don't care enough to question themselves or their parenting. It sounds like you're doing great! Some other ideas - pampering day for mum and bub bonding time, think foot soaks, painted toenails, hand scrubs, face masks (all pretty cheaply made at home too), dress ups, coffee dates (aren't those babycinos to die for), tea parties on the lawn. Encourage her sometimes to play on her own too so she can work on her imagination.
I never ever thought of days like that! Thank you so much, I will look into how to make them all and see how we go :)
I'm sorry that you feel like this. I feel exactly the same way! That's shows me that it must be the age!! I have thought about leaving them this week. I have never thought that before. This must be an awful phase. That we all obviously have to ride out together!!
I'm sorry that you feel like this. I feel exactly the same way! That's shows me that it must be the age!! I have thought about leaving them this week. I have never thought that before. This must be an awful phase. That we all obviously have to ride out together!!