I want to start off by saying I'm a super nice person, I get along with pretty much everyone I meet. I can't seem to Make friends though, I have many acquaintances, just not really anyone I could class as a 'friend'. I don't even know where to go to meet friends.
My job involves working alone, so I can't make work friends, at my kids school, I make friends but they seem to ditch me as soon as something better comes along. I had a friend who I was extremely close to, we shared everything and then suddenly she found a new friend and didn't have time for me anymore, the other friend doesn't like me so would say "hey I want to go now" when I was trying to have a conversation with my friend. We barely speak now.
I was the akward loser kid in high school so didn't really retain friends from there, and it feels like after 10years, nothing really has changed.
I'm getting married next year, and I only have one person I would want to ask to be a bridesmaid. My partner has so many friends, people love him and make an effort with him, and i wish I had that, I seem to be the person that can be dumped so easily.
I guess my real question is, where can I meet friends? I don't really have any hobbies that would help me meet people
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might be an idea to start with new interests and hobbies.
the church is a good place to start (I know that sounds seriously corny)
but many run different hobby/social groups, Particularly the United and they don't expect you to be converted to join in .
I've never really found the whole school mum bit particularly practical either. just nothing in common.
maybe try square dancing if into fitness. they are more down to earth than the ones in the gym. TBH im not the most social person on earth. most of my friends I have had for a decade or more. cross paths by accident at various stages I had the benefit of my work being very Public so most of the town knew me even though I didn't know them and every time they saw me they felt they knew me and would catch me up on their life story without even knowing my name and it just kind of extends from there.
there is scrap booking (expensive) crochet photography there are weekend running groups.
maybe look around for local facebook groups for things you are interested in its a good place to start.
Having a hobby or sporting interest definitely helps. I've made some good friends in classes I've been to for a hobby. That shared interest creates conversation.
You could also look at the meet-up app/website lots of social groups you can join.
Playgroups. Start a class or a sport. Church. Join a club. There are lots you can do to meet people and make friends.
I'll be your friend :) I have the same trouble sometimes, only have a small circle of friends. Pm me on FB if you'd like :) I'm in Queensland x
Much love, it's hard feeling lonely x
OP here: church really isn't my thing, so that's out. I'm in my mid 20s and I plan on joining a gym in a few weeks.
Thankyou so much for your offer Yasmine, I live in Perth (SOR) though
I know im beating a dead horse here but joining a club or hobby group is definitely the go. While the gym will provide you a healthy outlet - it is easy to fall into the solo category again. I go through phases where i crave to meet new people and get out there. It means that ive tried so many things - and i love it. Every thing from roller derby, girl guides (giving back to community), adult begginners ballet (btw im terribly uncoordinated so its friggin hilarious!) Just find out whats happening at your local community centre - and show up one night. You'll never look back. Good luck - and have fun!!