I am recently a single mother to a two year old son. For the past 3.5 years my ex has worked FIFO so I have raised our son and he would see him for a week every 2.5 months. He has recently been fired after a failed drug test (which is why we split up, the drugs not the unemployment) he has had big problems with using ice in the past and I reuse to expose my son to that life. He is now living with his parents about 30 mins away and he has a visitation for a few hours every weekend with our son, I am always present. My anxiety is becoming ridiculous regarding the fact that one day I will have to send our son to him for the entire weekend without proper supervision. He has shown how irresponsible he is with our son on multiple occasions, and one incident resulted in our son having to be hospitalised because he was not watching him. And this was before he started using again!!! I am so extremely worried that something will happen to him in his fathers care, and I don't know how to cope with this anxiety.. How do I accept this?? How can I simply be ok with sending my son off to him, unsure if he will be safe. I want our son to have a relationship with his father of course, but I need him to be safe. I don't know what to do.
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You will stress every time (I do) because to not do so is lying to yourself.
Hope that before he is going on weekends he is able to use a mobile phone and follow rules to keep himself safe even if dad can't start teaching him now get him an ownfone or one of those watch phones
Get legal help! With that history and the drug use no court will grant him unsupervised care. Seriously, do as much research and get as much help as you can, your child has rights to safety and you have a responsibility to make sure he is safe. Call legal aid, call your local women's recourse centre, until he can prove he is clean he should not have unsupervised care. Be strong, breath deeply, get some counseling. Everything will be ok.