Recently my 5yo son was absconded from my care by his father who had nothing to do with him until recently (at no fault of my own, he didn't want anything to do with him). It took a barrister and an urgent recovery order to get him back. Now with ongoing court visits to work out visitation for him.
Since all that has happened I literally cannot cope when he's not with me. I get so anxious I eat out the house, I pace, cry, tremble and feel like I have chest pain when he's not with me. He normally sleeps in my bed, but when he falls sleep in his own I can't get to sleep at all.. Even when I know he's somewhere safe when he's gone to my mothers or sisters house, my separation anxiously is through the roof so I was wondering if anyone had any ideas that would help me cope? As I know one day he will HAVE to go back to his fathers house and I'll need to deal with it.
I am seeing a therapist and my GP is well aware of my mental health.. They are trying to help but I still feel this overwhelming anxiety!
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Shocking isnt it.
He didn't run off with my girls but there would be stories every time of something happening and phone calls from them screaming. My lawyer told me to keep sending them or I wouldn't be able to get the orders I needed for the interstate move.
Basically if they were at his house I wouldnt be at home. I had some friends who I would go restaurant hoping with a different one each week.
And I tried to keep myself busy dating or working or working on one project or another. The very last time they went to his house I spent planning a wedding and getting married within about a month.....
Its been 10 years I wish I could say it gets easier. But it doesn't. And if they know it sets your anxiety off he will deliberately turn off phones not make expected calls, change plans without telling you and bring them home late just to jerk your chain.