Am I overreacting!!!
My 11 yr old daughter plays netball and the other week,her coach pulled her off the court put her arm around her and said what mistakes she didn't like that my daughter made then went onto say'stop wasting my fxxxxxx time' my poor daughters face turned bright red and as I looked at my daughter I can see she was holding back tears.I didn't talk to her as I knew if I did she would've got upset and cried. Later on the way home is when she let it out.Please tell me do I approach the coach,let the netball association know-I'm in two minds as I feel it will get worse and my daughter will be singled out if I make a complaint.
What would you do?
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Oh my god yes!!! There is NEVER EVER any excuse for a grown up to swear at a child EVER! I would have gone crazy mumma bear on her.
I would make it known somehow that using swear language, as has bene witnessed, is not tolerated. Not sure how though, a memo, a general conversation, a direct conversation, going above her head, id probably bring it up in a general 'whats acceptable here' kind of way.
I don't think you are overreacting at all. It's a coaches job to encourage and teach, not swear at kids and list everything they are doing wrong. Most clubs have someone you can go to that is a point of contact for complaints about coaches/umpires etc i would approach them and discuss it with them that way you can stay anonymous if you wish
As wrong as this is, it does seem very common amongst kids sports (especially when they are older and the competition is more)
Ive seen a coach text the gun emoji to parents when their kids havent been able to play!
I feel for your daughter as it will put her off playing.
Probably just start with the coach, approach her as you would a teacher at school and ask for her what happened as your daughter was upset. If she doesnt mention the swearing Then just casually drop in 'she was upset when you swore at her'
This lets her know that you know exactly what happened and that you wernt pleased, but dont make it agressive (if you can)
She will most likely realise you dont like that and that your daughter reports back to you and she will hopefully be more careful in the future.
If it continues or is mean to your daughter in other ways approach her again. Even ask the other parents if they have ever had an incident with her.
Of course if it continues or you feel you havent been heard then go to the association, just bear in mind it will upset the apple cart (so to speak)
I think it's not on swearing at kids you're coaching. If a parent were to act like that, it would be deemed inappropriate. So yes, go nuts.
Are you in South East QLD by any chance?!! Bet I know who she is If you are!
No I'm in Melbourne.
Hi
I am the mother who asked this question.I appreciate the advice unfortunately I didn't hear the coach say this to my daughter as I stated in my question,my daughter opened up to me on the way home.My husband took her to training the following week and asked the coach straight out-he's the type of guy that doesn't beat around the bush.
The coaches reply was I would never do that,so then it was my daughter's word against hers.My husband did get them both together but she denied saying it then went onto say how much she loves my daughter.I am sure it won't happen again as she knows we are onto it and we will speak up.
Thanks all