I love having a shower with my baby, she giggles, snuggles and is generally very excited when me and her shower but obviously I have to stop at some point and same thing goes for dad. What age did you stop your kids showering with you and showering with dad? Did you let them choose or did you suddenly just one day say no more.
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I stopped letting my son see me naked on a regular basis the day I decided he needed to learn to respect my privacy. By that I mean when I felt it was time for him to learn to knock on doors before entering a room.
For me that was around 6 years old we started the process. By that time they are toilet trained well and truly, they want to be more independent with that stuff anyway, can dress themselves etc.
Plus by that age I was well and truly ready to bonk my partner without fear of kids walking in. So it all seemed to tie up together for me.
I think you will get varying opinions. My eldest is 7, almost 8 and he still see's me naked. I'll get my cues from him when he starts to feel uncomfortable. Plus I'm happy for my kids to have a realistic view on what a real womens body looks like rather then photo shopped from a magazine or edited in a movie.
I tell them to turn around that's all the warning they get if they are in my room they know I'm not going to hang around waiting for them to "get it" because whatever I am doing or about to do bloody hurts doing including getting in to position to do it....particularly if I am unwell....I have needed help to put my pants/bathing suit/underwear/shoes/skirt/shorts on, on really bad day's.....I haven't needed help actually in the shower yet thankfully....worse case scenario just have a rinse if that is all I can manage...I have slipped, fallen and wound up with a full audience......
I wish I was at least twice this age before my body started misbehaving on me but life is life and reality is reality....
maybe have a complimentary question....At what age did you start accepting your children's help......
I was occasionally helping my mother when she was about the same age......we have Useby dates......and I fear my daughters will be in the same boat.
As far as Showering with the kids goes....until they were about 3-4 hey would play in the bottom of the shower while I showered....if it was during the day.....it was more a case of well at least i know where they are!
they will stop joining you eventually.....kind of sort of...I still get shouted requested through the bathroom and toilet door quite regularly.....
My kids are 8,5 and 2 none of them shower with us anymore but they do regularly interupt my showers and whinge about something. I never hide anything we are pretty open about things
I'm 25 am my mum still walks around naked if I am at her house lol
I think I was about 5 or 6 when I stopped showering with my parents.
For my own kids I think it will be around the same age or when they start asking too many questions about body parts etc.
I'm 31(female) and I'd still have a bath with my mum. It's different if it's a mum/son or father/daughter.
I don't know if there is a definitive answer to this question. There are so many variables.
When you or your child is uncomfortable.
I would talk to my my mum in the shower or brush my teeth while she was in the shower and had no issues with her doing the same even as an adult, my sister is quite private and locked the door from about age 12.
It was a non issue in our house, I now have a four year old son that stays in the bath while I shower (it's a combined bath shower) it is just part of the day.
We sleep naked all
Year round and my younger 2 still shower with me. I don't got out of my way to cover up, I have nothing to be ashamed of and want my 3 daughters to feel the same way. My 6yo doesn't shower with us and doesn't see dad naked anymore but she will stand and have a conversation with me while I shower.
I grew up with a mother that constantly walked around the hous3 naked, even around my brother. I do the same with my teenage daughter. I want her to know that it is ok to look the way you do naked and not to be ashamed of your body.
I have 2 daughters. They are 4 and 7 and there's no way I'd bother trying to hide my body from them. They follow me everywhere with their endless chatter, their stories don't stop just because I get in the shower or go to the loo haha. The only time I insist on being left alone is when there's a tampon involved! My mum was ok with us chatting to her in the bathroom too, so I guess that's normal for me. They see their dad naked too, and he doesn't care (and neither do I or the kids). We keep intimacy (and morning wood lol) behind closed doors, so the kids do understand privacy. But getting dressed and showering etc I really don't know how or why other families hide themselves away. And to be honest, I'd rather they were relaxed about seeing normal bodies, and learn to be comfortable in their own skin. No point teaching them that our bodies shouldn't be seen - that's setting them up for all sorts of body image issues.