Hey ladies, I need some advice from other woman who have been in my situation before. I want to have another baby but my husband doesn't. We currently have a 5 year old who has just started prep. I long to have another baby. I've always wanted to have 2 children. My husband and I are finally at a point where we are stable enough to support another child. He had told me he doesn't want to have another.. I asked him why his response was that he is "to old now" (he is 26).. I told him not to be stupid he is young still.. Then his response was "we just got over the whole young child daycare thing" he knows how much I want this and I just feel absoutley shattered that I won't get to experience it again. Am I being selfish for being so upset over it? Has anyone else had this happen? Im laying here in tears feeling broken.
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I was in the exact same situation. we have two children and after i had my second i thought i was finished. But by the time she was three i wanted a third but my hubby didn't. I kept quiet and the subject arose a few more times over the years and finally my husband agreed with me that we should try for a third. i am obviously over the moon. My children are now 7 and 10 but i don't mind. The nagging feeling never really went away for me, i knew i wanted more. (i just hope it can happen again now :-) ) Give him time and he may change his mind.
I think you need to sit down and tell him exactly what you just said here. He's 26 that sh not old I'm nearly 27 have 3 kids and plan to try for another when I'm 30. It's not like he'll be doing hard yards like carrying it. He may be scared or just wants some time with you. Id be sitting down and having a serious conversation about it with him, with both your concerns and why you want to and don't want to. If you don't you may end up resenting him for it.
You know, he may in fact actually feel too old!! I'm 28 and I feel too old to have more children. I do have a few children, and my other half wants more but he respects me enough and doesn't try and find more reasons as to why I feel this way. It's simple.