So in a few weeks im going away for 3 nights with a girlfriend and my husband will be home alone for the weekend with the kids (18 months and 4.5 years) and i starting to get really nervous about it. It not the looking after the kids im worried about he is a great hands on dad but its the running of the house that he sucks at. Doing the dishes, washing, picking up toys, (asking the kids to do it and making sure they do) or just keep the house tidy. Im really worried that when i get back the whole house is going to be trashed and its going to take me for ever to get it tidy again. Im no clean freak or anything close to but my husband just does not see the mess or the clothes on the floor or a kitchen full of dirty dishes.
I went away last saturday just for the day and got home late (10pm) when i got home it was bad. there was every dinner dishes still on the table, toys everywhere, pots with food still in then in the kitchen plus every dish from lunch in the kitchen. he had done no cleaning or tidying the whole day. It took me 4 hours the next day to clean up.
How can i relax on my weekend away when i will be worried about how long its going to take me to clean everything when i get home.
Husband home alone for the weekend
Husband home alone for the weekend
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You just need to tell yourself it doesn't matter and that a weekend away will be worth it.
You tell yourself that you can waste your weekend away by worrying over something you have no control over OR you can go and have fun and deal with it after.
I know how you feel as my hubby's the same but the main thing is the kids are looked after. Yes it's shit to come home to a mess but wasting your precious time away stressing over it will just make it worse and ruin what should be an awesome 3 days
Perhaps mention to hubby and ask if he could make an effort and clean so you don't stress when you should be having fun.
Honestly, it's the same here. All you can do is accept it really, and instead of seeing the problem, try making a plan for a solution instead. So organise in advance for him to take the kids out of the house for a few hours so you can clean uninterrupted when you get back to help restore your sense of order. I face the same thing every time I am away and my husband is looking after our 2 boys. I had to stay 5 days in hospital recently with our newborn daughter who had meningitis, and I just came to the realisation that I could either be mad at him for not managing things the way I do, or I could just try to feel glad to be home and ask for his help in allowing me to restore order again. It's not easy, but it's the way I manage it! I just had to let go. Just a suggestion - take it or leave it :-)
Tell him if he isn't going to clean he will have to get in a cleaner before you get back.
Just a little thing I picked up on myself tonight. I had to work late so hubby picked up the big kids from school today. It was agreed that he would do the dishes and cook dinner. When I got home, the sink was still full of dishes, dinner hasn't even been thought about but the biggest surprise of all was waiting for me in the lounge room. Hubby was teaching miss 7 and master 6 how to play checkers, there was laughter, there was no stress, just lots of fun and memory making. This is something I often miss doing because I'm so busy with chores. Because they were happy, they ask pitched in to help with dishes and cooking and we had a great night. Don't stress the small stuff, find the positives.