Hi mums i am writing this with knots in my stomach and so much hatred.. we have just found out my step sister who is 26 is pregnant now bormally most peopke would be so happy for her and what not but here is the whole story she is a junkie and so is her partner that beats the crap out of her too.. her response when he own dad saod to her the he is disappointed with her and thay she cant even look after her self was this might be what i need ( HOW F#$CKING SELFISH CAN SHE BE HONESTLY ) we have no idea how far along sje is or anything like that as i do not want her junkie arse around my 4 kids she has had her chance 5 of them to be honest and the last was her calling us all dogs and having used drug paraphernalia in the room where she was sleeping where my kids could also access.. so she was asked to leave and i jave wiped my hands of her.. now for the big problem the baby the poor innocent baby that hasnt asked to be brought into her horrble drug life with a father that beats and will possibly do so much more its horrblible to think about who can i call what can i do to help that baby there is no helping her as she has gone to rehab 7 times now and once payday hits she's out re shooting crap in her arm and smoking god knows what i want to grab her and slap sone sense into her but i dont even think that would work shes too far gone and believes the world owes her everything...
I think i have gotten off track now (sorry angry about this) my question is how can i help this baby get away from her and him if she isnt clean how can i make sure docs is there before the baby is born and the day the baby is born to eother assist her if she will follow and allow support or remove the baby from her care and to someone that can care for the baby and i do apologize if this upsets anyone but i am not thinking of her and more a innocent babys life could possibly be at risk
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Sorry for all the spelling mistakes my phone wouldnt let me go back
To my knowledge if drugs are found in the system(unsure anymore if it is during pregnancy or just at the hospital ) child safety is notified and at the hospital and takes the baby straight away. I would give them a call let them know your concerns and what their policies are, if you are in a position to see if you can become a foster carer and have the child placed with you when born.
It is very frustrating and upsetting to see someone harming their unborn baby this way but unfortunately there's not much that can be done until she gives birth
Speak to whoever is responsible for child protection in your state.
Hospitals and doctors are pretty quick to pick up on drug addicts. They know the signs.
They will also have procedures in place when bubs is born. Bubs will be closely monitored for withdrawal etc
You help this baby by calling the child protection department in your state now!! You call them and tell them everything you have written here and that you have concerns for her unborn child. She will be given an option get clean and drug free or loose your baby before you even leave hospital there are now laws to protect these babies from their parents. I'm serious my ex's cousin was visited by DCP before her child was born because she was using and self harming. She lost her son after he was born because she chose to get back on it and loose the plot when he was a few months old. She will remain on their radar for years. But if no one says anything nothing will happen until hospital time and then they need to prove what is going on. Do it! For the safety and well being of this child!!
Tip off to DCP to keep her under investigation. Unfortunately they can't do anything while she is pregnant but once the baby is born they'll investigate and take it off of her if she's unfit
Tip off to DCP to keep her under investigation. Unfortunately they can't do anything while she is pregnant but once the baby is born they'll investigate and take it off of her if she's unfit
They test during pregnancy now if the baby is born addicted DOCS will be involved from the get go she may not even get to take it home
They test during pregnancy now if the baby is born addicted DOCS will be involved from the get go she may not even get to take it home
I'm going to speak from my own personal experience here, I was 24 and a junkie when I found out I was pregnant and I can tell you that it was the wake up call I needed to straighten my life out. The day I was told I was pregnant I stopped using drugs gave up smoking and gave my partner the option to do the same or walk away. 8 years later and I have not touched drugs since and have a healthy almost 8 year old son. I have just last year completed a bachelors degree in psychology and am now trying to gain work in youth services so I can try and help kids from making the same mistakes I did. The best thing you can do for your step sister is give her the chance to get away from her partner if she wants to and help her get clean for her and the babies sake. If she chooses not to get clean then it will come out during her ante natal tests and when the baby is born will most likely be taken into custody by docs and you can apply for temporary guardianship of the baby if that is something you and your partner are willing to do. The best advice I can give is give her one last chance because it's not easy getting clean and having withdrawals while pregnant. I hope everything works out for the best however it turns out x