My husbands dad walked out on him when he was 4 and hasn't talked to him since. my hubby recently sent him a message via facebook wanting to reconnect- his reason being that he wants him to be a part of our (future) childrens life, if he is willing and wanting to be. Hubby also said he doesn't want to turn out to be a bad father- like his own. And that he would really like it if his bio. father did actually want to know us and his future grandchildren.
So, his messaged his dad...and he has replied after a few weeks or so just updating hubby on where he is, that his married, has kids etc. My husband now doesn't know how to reply, or what to reply with.....his said to me...'how the hell..what the hell do I say to someone who hasnt been in my life for the past 22 years?'
I want to help my hubby out but Ive never been in the same situation. I dont know how to help him. Anyone been in this position and what did you do...and how did it go?
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I haven't personally been in this situation but my husband has. His mother left when he was 5. There were a lot of reasons behind her decision and it wasn't an easy onE for her , I won't go into details. They came into contact again when he was 18, They are now very close and he has filled the void he once had.
I suggest that your husband try to reach out but initiating a meet up, if that's what he wants? Perhaps they can meet, with you there as his support... then your husband can go from there to decide if this man is someone you both want in yours and you future children's lives.