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Is there anyone who can recommend someone who can help me getting my 3yo into in his own bed, Im at my wits end. Screaming and screaming not just a grissle absolute hysical at bedtime wont stay in his bed or cot at all. Ive tried sticker charts, job charts, rewards, staying in there with him, music and a night light. I wake him at 620am as I start work at 7am and isnt going to sleep will about 10pm. Will only go to sleep infront of tv please dont judge I am not coping and my hubbys has just had spinal surgery. Im desperate for some help.
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We had the same with our 2.5yo went on for weeks until I put a safety gate on her door and the next night asleep in her bed at 8:30 much more manageable. And yes she screamed alot when the gate was closed that first night... And it took awhile still to get to sleep but I just keep the same routine and some nights she even plays quietly then hops into bed.
Maybe try reading some stories to him. I had the same issue with my little one, as he only used to fall asleep ini front of TV, Start off with a routine like bath, teeth, say good night, go pick out 2 or 3 books to read then reading them, maybe even let him read them after you have said goodnight. I did this with mine and within a couple of weeks we had that routine down pat, and he now even looks forward to it...will eagerly go to bed now. Good luck..try and stick it out, it'll be worth it :)
I have an older child so she has helped a little, but at 7.30pm we brush teeth and then sit and watch a few episodes of a quiet tv show, at 8pm they go to the toilet, hug and kiss me, then I sit outside their door (they currently share) and read a book that each has picked, I could sit there for 15-20 minutes easily. But when I walk away, I say goodnight, I love you and go turn all the lights off in the house and do something quietly in my room (also with the light off) until I hear nothing. If I do hear them arguing/talking/stuffing around I call out from my room (if I go to the door my daughter somehow manages to get me talking lol) "if you don't be quiet I'll have to close the door. I have only once had to half close the door. I rarely have any problems with it, and we do this exact routine every night (on weekends the time changes but same routine) my son (3 at the time I started) used to crawl out and climb into my bed with me. I'd give him a cuddle and carry him back to bed to be tucked in. No yelling, no growling just calm and constant. (Yelling or growling with my kids works them up and makes it harder for them to sleep apparently). Good luck! It's mostly trial and error until you find something that works for you. But I was told to give each new idea a few weeks to start working before I tried something different.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iehkr7aO50M
Plenty of video's with a range of strategies...I like this video the best, as it focusses on making the transition gradual (Try using a visual timer). "Help children to sleep in their own beds."
I can sympathise totally. With our three year old we do bath/shower and then cuddles in her bed with daddy, he puts a movie on (tv in her room, I know. I know) or best is episodes of a show. I then come in and we say goodnight to daddy and light goes off. I stay with her and when movie finishes or I think enough episodes of a show have been watched, the tv is turned off and it is sleep time. She is usually asleep within 10 minutes, a bit scared of the dark at present so looking at getting a night light. We also do books some nights (would prefer to do this every night, we will get there). I find keeping the nightime routine consistent and even aiming for an early bedtime to make up for a little later sleep time helps. She likes me there to fall asleep with. Works for us. Hope this helps, good luck :)