I'm looking for resources to assist my family situation. We have three boys. The oldest aged 9.5 is argumentative, rude and extremely hard to deal with. I just don't know how long we can continue on this path. He is negative a lot of the time which creates a tense and unharmonious family. He is often only nice to us if he is getting something his way or if he wants something. We have tried talking, giving him more 1 on 1 time with his dad and I, removing privileges etc but he always starts again without fail. I feel so sad that i don't know how to help him. I'm actually wondering if he's like this now how he'll be as a teenager! I wonder spmetimes if he's possibly depressed and also has anxiety issues. He gets worried and angry about things that are completely out of his control. His younger brothers are pretty happy go lucky types. I don't expect him to be exactly the same but i want him to be able to manage his emotions, stop worrying and not lash out at his family.
He's doing good at school, is generally a pretty clever kid and when he is happy he's a wonderful boy.
I'm in Vic. Can anyone recommend who I can contact for perhaps some counselling for him or parenting help for us?
Help, my son is very negative
Help, my son is very negative
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Start with your GP and a referral to paediatrician and psychologist. Your GP will know who is in your local area and is appropriate.
Could he be about to go through puberty?
My son was the same. . We still have tough moments and he is now 16yo... I didn't know what to do either until it came to a point about 18 months ago where we actually ended up in a somewhat physical altercation. A lot of screaming and yelling. Nasty nasty words. I had finally had enough of his behaviour. It was horrible. I felt so bad that it had got to that point. Through the school, we got my son to see a counsellor. He also attends anger management sessions. This seems to be helping tremendously. Although it's a slow process, he can now see when he is reaching a certain level and removes himself. He also has learnt to assess a situation on a scale of 1-10 as to how bad it is... He isn't half as combative or argumentative as he was and it's getting better... its making our house much more harmonious and I can only assume he feels a lot better within himself as he smiles a lot more now. We are in VIC too. I highly suggest a councillor and anger management sessions. I only wish I had of done it sooner xxxxx