I'm confused, is this a group for supporting and helping other women or a pack of wolves, ready to tear the throats out of everyone they don't like or agree with. I saw a post about a woman who had been seeing a married man along with the horrible things a lot of you said about her, can you all say you have never done something you regret? This is far from the first time I have seen this behaviour in the group. I'm so sick of seeing you all attack each other. I have asked a question on here a couple years ago and after all the disgusting things that were said by people who knew nothing about what I was going through bar the couple things that were said in the question I was in tears. Then when I had questions about other things and needed help, advice or support I felt I couldn't ask for fear of all the hateful nasty bullshit. When you write nasty comments like that, don't just think about how much you dislike that person for the minute part of their life that they mentioned, try thinking about the women who are too scared to ask for help when they need it, because of people like you. A lot of you need to go back and read the rules.
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It's why I stick to this page versus Facebook :(
agreed! Can't understand why people would want to be writing such filth at all let alone with their name and picture attached to it for the world to see
Agreed. Most of it is on facebook too which is what I don't understand, you aren't anonymous on facebook and everyone can see you making vile comments! Some people feel like they have no one to turn to so they come on here hoping for some support and get ripped to shreds by total strangers, so disgusting. One can disagree or give constructive criticism without being nasty!
The other thing that concerns me with this page is the medical advice that gets thrown around sometimes.
Agree, the medical 'advice' is scary.
Agree. I saw some absolutely shocking and dangerous medical "advice" being given today. It is scary.
I am sorry you had such a horrible experience. I (like you) believe this should be a place for support and benevolent advice not a place for judgement. <3
The first question I wrote on here a few years ago - some great responses on here. Constructive. Not nasty.
A few days later it popped into my FB feed and the comments on there were downright nasty! I was in tears too.
I have asked questions since but I prepare for the negativity. It's inevitable. I know it's going to be there no matter how carefully I word the question.
I really don't know why those people are here on imperfect mum. The name itself suggests... Imperfection...
I had no one else to turn to and it's been the case for years. They just don't think about that?
Yea. Nasty comments that people write can totally wreck your self esteem.
Anyway. I totally agree with you.
Kelly here from The Imperfect Mum team.
Thanks for writing in anonymous - as hard as that was for me to read, I appreciate the truth.
We do have a system on the Facebook site if you do see a nasty troll - please inbox the page ASAP so we can remove the comment / ban the person before the poster gets hurt.
But I agree, the atmosphere here is much more thoughtful.
We do also get people who aren't a part of our group commenting on the facebook site - just throwing in their 2 cents without understanding what this page is for. We need to ban these unhelpful people's comments.
Thanks again ladies!
xKelly
I want you to know it is nothing against you Kelly, what you built can be amazing at times, but lately some of the women are just downright cruel. And the amount of questions you get, then all the answers, even if there were another 5 admin, it would still be far too difficult to go through every comment, and you shouldn't have to. I absolutely love your vision of a safe judgement free place for women to seek help. I know you are doing tthe best you can, and it shows. lots of love for you Kelly