So my ex partner lives 5 hrs away is getting married in oct he's asked if our daughter in year 8 can come a week earlier before the wedding.
Our school always frowns upon unnecessary leave coupled I told him and said she'd need to bring some school work with her to which he flatly refused.
I am unsure if I should just allow it he's not at all the type to negoiate. What are other mums thoughts. I'm by no means denying she should go, I just don't know about a week off school.
He currently just sees her as per our court orders which is half of each holidays.
Week off school?
Thursday, 24 March 2016 - 17:14
Week off school?
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Hi! I have no actual answer for you but I think it makes sense that he refuses to have her do homework when he will probably be super busy preparing for his wedding wedding. For that exact reason I think it makes total sense for her not to go spend the week there. Maybe you can compromise and let her go one or 2 days early instead of a whole week?
If he complains about her keeping up with her education, then he needs to shove it.
Ask your daughter what she wants. She is old enough to make her own decision.
Tell the father that she'll be given two choices - go and keep up with the course work, or stay and go only on the day.
Even if he is super busy planning the wedding, she will be able to find an hour or two to do homework and catch up.
But ultimately, I believe the decision needs to be your daughters, considering her age.
Yes let her go. It's his wedding, that's not a usual occasion. There's probably lots goinh on the week leading up. What's a week off in year 8 really its not life-changing, plenty of kids get sick or take holidays or other time off. I think this reason is worthy. And if he won't do the work, help her do some or just tell school he didn't do it or return it, let it go and try to help her out of being torn in the middle.
Stick to the court orders if he isnt one to negotiate why should you be?
The court orders are only enforceable if followed
A week earlier before the wedding?? Is she to stay the 1st week of holidays also in order to be at the wedding or is this the fathers way of having his 'holiday contact' without the strings of school work attached? I don't really see any issue with your daughter going (If SHE wants to go) but he needs to ensure her education is not going to be affected! He gets off scot free all year round and still can't manage a week with a little homework!!! Wedding or not if it was the mother she would still try to ensure that all effort was made to get everything done.