I posted a little while ago asking if I was a bitch or lazy after my friend I'm living with went off at me for not cooking her dinner or doing her laundry and I felt like she was treating me the way my DV ex did.
Well we are getting along alright now I still don't feel the same towards her.
I've been looking for my one place but have had no luck at all. I've been to one inspection and I was lucky to get that. I don't know how to fill out the application form online. It asks for your income and your past rental history and I don't really have any I lived with my parents to I was 20 then I lived in america to I was almost 21 then with my ex and it was a defense house and my names weren't on the lease he is still there and I don't have any histroy of rent. I did live on my own for a bit in a cabin when I was 19 but it was cash in the hand and a private rental.
I just feel so lost. I need a stable place for me and my baby and I don't know bow to do it.
When I look on the net at a place it ALWAYS says no inspection times available. So how is it possible to get a place. And I have two dogs two which are my world so its even harder. I lost SO much to my ex and loosing my dogs which are pure bread rough Collies that I use to bread it would kill me.
My friend now has a new guy not the one she accused me a few weeks ago of flirting with another one and he has moved in already. He brought round a suit case and unpacked. His things are in the bath room. And now they do the shopping for the week together and I'm paying for half and I'm not aloud to go. I hear them having sex at night in the bath where my daughter baths. I cry at night some times like I am now because men are my biggest fear more than any thing. I never wanted to live with one again and now I am. I see his shaving cream the same one my ex used and it brings back so many memories. I have PTSD and seeing that cream I had a flash back and then a panic attack and I can't tell my friend this cause its her house and she has already told me she is doing me a favor letting me stay even though I'm paying rent etc. I can't let my daughter be homeless. This guy seems okay but I can't stand him cause his a male I know that sounds bad but the last one wasn't so nice to me. What do I do? How do I find a place I'm in a small town so its competitive and I don't have a lot of money. I'm so lost in my self. I often think of suicide I had it all before I met my ex 2 jobs a house deposit now I've lost so much and I just want the best for my daughter and I'm struggling already. How do I get my own place. How do I do it all on my own
How to go abkut renting for the first time
How to go abkut renting for the first time
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I think you need to contact a DV place for some advice. Also talk to your psychologist, they can help you work through all of this. Have you spoken to your psychologist about any services you could access to get a place? Also talk to places like salvos and see what help they can offer.
You don't need to be on the lease. In fact you are a tenant where you are now. You can put your friend down as your landlord. There doesn't need to be a lease. So just put her info on the form.
I would call your local hospital community health service and ask to see a social worker. They can help you fill out the paper work and sort out what to do xx
Homeswest Priority housing?? Have you looked at that. You can get your doctor or psychologist to write you a letter so you can get priority housing. Did you write in the other day but only put a few details in because this is so similar to a post I read days ago. You can put that you were living at home with your parents and you can also put your private rentals on any applications you filled out you still paid rent.
Yes contact people who can help you!
Look on Gumtree, private rentals are much easier! Just reply to their add with a few lines about your situation, eg) hi I'm writing for the unit for rent. I'm a single mum, studying/seeking work, my son is 7 and very kind, respectful boy.
I have two dogs. Please contact me if I could have a look at the flat.kind regards, Jill.
If I was you I would put your parents address for the past five years and get them as you reference. Then also put this lady if she will give you a good reference.
Save time by only applying for the suitable ones- Make sure the ad says pets allowed. Rent amount has to be 1/3 of your income.no more.
Income you put your centrelink payment amount if you're not working.
For.inspections, if there's no inspection, you click to register, then it will email or text you when they've made one.
If you have no ties to that area, extend your search until you find decent places you can afford and get because there's plenty. I applied for six months straight in my small town and got nothing.
I applied for a week in a new area and got one without inspecting it.
It's easy to lose all hope, but stay positive and definitely get help because if it's not correct they won't even look at it.
Also look at NRAS
If you were a recognised defendant of a Defence member, you can contact DHA and get a tenant history letter that will list you as an occupant and that you lived there as your exes dependent. Try them.