Hi everyone so my step son is 6 and today before school put a massive hole in the wall in his room all because he didn't want to wear shoes today what's a suitable punishment his behaviour is out of control and we r waiting for doctors app ect he's always so angry and breaking things and yelling and screaming to the point he just about losses his voice and then it's our fault for making him yell and get upset as we r mean ect according to him this goes on daily wishing we died and always over nothing or little things like going to toilet before bed ect please help losing my mind and starting to give up
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I don't know. Seeing as he's waiting to see a Dr, and he thinks you are so mean and awful, how about shock him with forgiveness? Show him some random kindness when he's least expecting it.
Tell him you're sad about the hole, but you saw that he was really angry andyou love him very much and don't want that so you'll have to work together on how to make sure this doesn't happen again. Would he like that too? Then let it go.
Have tried killing with kindness but lately I can't even stand him to be honest he never uses manners is horrible to me as soon as dads out of ear or sight range and has the well at mums house I can answer for everything I know I do sound horrible for saying that but I'm over it and people saying he's only 6 give him time my sons 7 and is no way disrespectful sure he has his moments and he's not perfect but he has boundaries and he knows right from wrong my step son can do and gets what he wants when he wants he came to us as she said she couldn't cope and he had stabbed her late one night I really just don't want to fear him or be worried about my son being in the way when his rage comes
Oh there's so much going on.
Try not to compare, because your son obviously hasn't been affected or isn't feeling or suffering with what your step son is.
It sounds like it's time for real help with him, I don't know where to start, gp, psychologist, school counsellor, use all the resources you can find, obviously it's beyond punishing him out of it. Good luck.
Yes definitely psychologist and paediatrician is a must.
If you really can't cope then you need to leave and let dad get on with it.
Yep sounds harsh but you aren't a victim in this, so you get to choose wether you stay or go. This little boy is obviously got some things going on.
Is he being checked for ODD?
ok so after gp and counciling and seeing a specialist we have been given a script for Dex today all he is going to mums Friday and she is pushing for us to start meds n supply her till end of holidays when he's in her care my concern is we won't see the change or know if she is giving meds ect and I want to wait till he starts school so we can see if the behaviour changers for our self or is it just me worry should we just get straight onto it ?