I've been living with my friend for a bit over a month now. She let me and my baby stay cause I had no where to go. I'm paying rent etc and she likes having me here cause I'm paying off her mortgage. But she has meet this new guy. They have been together for a week and bit and he already has moved in! This is the 3rd guy she has been seeing since I have been here she has always been one to bounce from guy to guy. Any way he has all his things here and stays every night. What makes it worse is her house is very small like a cabin and the walls are thin I think you know where I am going with this! I bath my daughter in that bath that they take every night.
I have a thing with men. I'm scared of them after being in a DV relationship with my baby's dad and now I hate men I don't feel comfortable with them and now I'm living with one again and I'm scared. I don't think he would do anything he seems nice but I don't feel comfortable. I left my ex 10 months ago I'm still fighting him in court and now I'm back with living with one. She didn't even ask me if I was okay with it or anything just one day he brings a suit case and is unpacking. Its her house so I can't say anything.
They don't talked to me they sit in their room I feel like I'm not welcome here at all! I want to leave like tonight.
I looked at a place yesterday and applied for it. Do I tell her that I am looking? Or do I just tell her when I get a place. I don't want her to kick me out now that I'm on the look. I don't want to rock the boat as things have been a bit awkward after we had a fight a few weeks ago.
What should I do?
lookong for a place to live. Do i tell her
lookong for a place to live. Do i tell her
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I think it's polite to tell her that you are looking to move on and thank her for putting you up when you had nowhere to go.
Giving her the heads up is polite. Even if she didn't give you the heads up regarding the new man. But it's nice to end things on a positive note :)
Tell her you're looking, thank her for everythinh and say you don't want to get in the way of her new thing & it's time for you anyway.
It'll probably ease the tension you're all feeling anyway.
Ask at caravan parks they charge cheaper weekly amounts for long term stays, furnished and ready to move straight into. Just make sure it's one you'll be happy to stay at for a few months if it comes to that.
You're not a bad guy for moving out. Tell her that you really appreciate the help she provided in letting you stay and that you have loved being there with her but you feel that the time is right to get back up on your feet and learn to be independent again. That it seems like the perfect time to give her and her new man some space to develop their relationship. If she's a true friend she wants you to be happy, healthy and independent over wanting you to pay her mortgage.