I need advice, I have developed strong feelings for one of my ex's, who is the father of my first child. thing is I am 35 weeks pregnant with someone else's child....
no it's not what your thinking, I did not cheat or anything like that. we actually split up when I was 3 months pregnant with our son... we both moved on and met new partners and I fell pregnant again to my new partner but unfortunately he ended up being very emotionally abusive so I ended it with him to, so here I am single again... but also pregnant to an idiot!
my first ex, the one I have gained strong feelings for again has just recently split up with his GF of 6ish months and we have both been supporting each other through our break ups and now I really regret ending it with him in the first place... He is a great father to our son and now I realise I gave our relationship away too easily, I was the one who ended it...
is it just my pregnancy hormones talking?? am I being completely unrealistic to even think that something might happen down the track?? I mean I'm about to have another baby to someone else!!
he doesn't know how I feel, as I'm not sure if I should or just wait and see or what??
Has anyone been in this situation and if so what was your outcome??
please no judging, I just need advice!
Help I need advice!!
Help I need advice!!
Posted in:
Relationships & Marriage, Pregnancy, Baby & Toddler
5 Replies
Honestly if just wait and see. Pregnancy hormones make you want to 'create' a family or nest. So you could have feeling because you are wanting to do that and he is convenient.
It sounds like you and your kid(s) have been through a lot and I think you owe it to yourselves to make sure your feelings are genuine before doing anything.
If he is meant to be, he will be there waiting in 6 months time.
I would say it ended for a reason and you're pregnant and he's a 'good father ' that's what tour hormones are craving right now.
But, if it's definitely done with the ex, and if this guy has proven himself, that's great. People do grow and learn. But what does he offer you? He can be a great dad without being your partner. Yeah that's attractive, but what else does he offer you? What will make it work this time?
This is my post, I'm sexually attracted to him. and I don't find many people attractive lol. He is just a really great guy and he has definitely changed for the better since becoming a father.
and yes it's definitely over with the latest ex, I've had to go to court and get a DVO put on him.
If he's the one, he's worth waiting a bit to be sure.
Take it slowly, don't make any big decisions when you're pregnant. It'll be best to wait & see how it goes anyway. Don't include your child together. Take it slow & you'll know in time.
Jump in sexually & I'll predict it won't work out again & you'll be left feeling pretty down
Youve been.through a lot, have a lot happening and coming, just look after healing yourself & let him support you if he's doing that well.