After any ideas.
My baby is 4 months , we spent 10 week in the women's whilst pregnant for IGUR 3rd percentile. A week after birth for feeding issues. Home 2 months end up in hospital again for bacterial meningitis and suspected septic blood (infection) continuing weight issues .I have a 6 year old whose started school this year .My house is a mess, I have no family support, my partner has just had a full knee / menisous operation and isn't much help at the best of times.
Since birth my baby won't sleep unless on me next to me. He is being treated for reflux, we see a doctor and pediatritrician . He also rarely sleeps. He is clearly tired but fights it and I've tried everything. He is fussy, and just can't seem to settle. I've tried letting him settle on his own going in at intervals comforting him and his screams until he clearly is too distressed. I can rock / pat or hold for hours none the difference, sleep music or not , others can try or not. He is expressed bottle fed as 're feeding isssues, I'm exhausted and with sick quilt and low milk supply after all the stress will be switching to formula after all frozen milk is used.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to get my baby to sleep? Won't be put down screams endless, tried a baby carrier and he hates it although I was told his legs dangles not the m and dangerous for his hips and can't afford a tula. So stopped using it. My hands hold a baby all day so nothing gets done. I barely have time for my 6 yr old and his school/ home work / reading is suffering. He attends a private school and has so much , don't agree with it for a prep but
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If you can afford it, honestly I'd be getting some home help. House cleaner, or someone to hold bubs for an hour or two so you can be free! An older retired neighbour who could help???? Honestly it sounds worth while just putting out the feelers.
Has lactose intolerance been ruled out??
Are you a member of a church? Sometimes they can organise help.
I have a 5 month old who's also difficult to settle, it so hard!! At 4.5 months, after battling through for what felt like so long (since birth), I bit the bullet and went to Tresillian. It was a huge help. They taught me how to settle Bub and at the same time I had 4 nights of no cooking, cleaning etc and lots of emotional support. Added bonus is that it's free. Go to the child and maternal health centre and see if you can get a referral to a service nearby. Things are definitely better now, we're all getting more sleep and Im starting to feel like a normal person again. Also, it turns out my baby had a stack of allergies which were contributing to his unsettledness - it's worth talking to the child and maternal health nurses about that too just to rule it out.
I don't really have advice..... But I just wanted to say you are doing an amazing job! My little girl was just like your 4 month, I found it was due to her being hungry..... It was an awful time. Don't feel bad about your son. Speak to the school and let then know it is hard at the moment and ask them for some advice (maybe they can reduce the homework for him for a little while???). Keep your head held high amazing mumma hopefully it gets easier for you.