I was groomed and molested by my Aunties husband as a young child. I've never thought it really affected me much until I had my own children.
I find it very difficult to trust anyone with my children, even my husbands family. They do have sleep overs with family but as soon as something happens where my child is upset about something that happened when he was with family or at OOSH or similar, I immediately think the worst. I don't act on it but it's always there lurking behind every situation creating doubt.
Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal?
I often discuss with my kids about telling me if anything were to happen and that private parts are private, etc. I'm just always worried.
Always worried
Always worried
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I think it's a normal reaction to be honest, I was assaulted when I was younger by 3 blokes and I am exactly the same, I only trust my parents, I think knowing when to reign it in and not projecting on to your Childers is important though.
I think it's a normal reaction to be honest, I was assaulted when I was younger by 3 blokes and I am exactly the same, I only trust my parents, I think knowing when to reign it in and not projecting on to your Childers is important though.
I think it's a normal reaction to be honest, I was assaulted when I was younger by 3 blokes and I am exactly the same, I only trust my parents, I think knowing when to reign it in and not projecting on to your Childers is important though.
Have you considered reiki kinesiology or a spiritual healing? They've helped me move the traumatic energy far more than the years of psychologists
How old are your kids ? There's a great book resource out called the underpants rule Look up myunderpantsrule.com it's a great easy way to talk about this topic with you're kids !! Being vigilant is not a problem at all and more parents need to be aware. but if you find your anxiety interferes with your daily life maybe seek some counseling for yourself too ?
I think it's a perfectly normal reaction for somebody who's experienced this kind of thing. I myself was abused from a young age by a close family member. I now have a daughter and I know already I'm very protective. I know I always will be. I will never restrict my baby girl in any way but I will educate her as best I can and I guess I'll always be extra vigilant about who she's spending her time with. You're doing the right thing educating your children, speaking openly and letting them know that it's ok to speak with you is the best thing you can do. It's hard isn't it and I feel for you and all of us who've experienced this sort of thing. Big hugs Mumma, you're not alone