Not so much a question but more a vent. So, it's 9pm and I'm sitting here upset drowning my sorrows in a tonne of chocolate! Once again, were behind in bills & rent and borrowing money off family to make ends meet. I'm on centrelink (2 kids) and my husband works full time but doesn't make much money. I'm 30 now and desperate to go back to work but I have no qualifications, no trades, nothing to fall back on. And no baby sitter and cant afford child care. I've done nothing with my life, no savings, I just live ground hog day everyday!! Everyone I know in my life is a school teacher or doctor or off saving the world, and I'm still broke, jobless, and a "nobody". I feel like a nobody. I feel like I've lost all my friends coz I'm not "good enough" to fit in. How do I be somebody? I feel like I've failed my children!
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30 is young. Sounds like perfect time and situation for you to train for a career.
Go back to TAFE or similar.
I know you said you can't afford it, but centrelink have a JETT program which is EXTREMELY affordable! (i pay $8 a day!!!!) and if you haven't studied recently you may also be eligible for a scholarship so the course may even be free.
I went through a stage when i had babies feeling trapped & wanted to work. I went back to work for a while but besides missing my kids, i was really paying what i earned in childcare fees. I ended up leaving. I then appreciated being at home with my kids more. If you are able to budget & stay home with your babies you don't miss all their little milestones. They are only little for such a short amount of time then before you know it they're at school. That's when i ended up going back to work. Everyone different but that's my experience. Perhaps join a Mums group where your kids can play & you can meet other mums in the same boat as you
Good luck mumma x
I am going through this at the moment but now my son is an adult and I'm a sole parent. I care for him for all but 9hrs a week due to his combo of illness/disabilities and that's all the funding we receive. I had to give up a career I loved when he became sick. It's either care for him or put him in residential care, he's only 21.
So I'm at the point where I have nothing to say to people even if I do manage to get them to visit me at home.
But what I want to say is you do have options and it won't be like this for ever. You are only 30. Have you considered doing some nightfill work, when your partner is home at night. Or studying online. So many courses available now and you don't even need Childcare. There are plenty of careers to give back in that aren't teaching or being a doctor.
Don't let yourself get stuck in a woah is me I can't do anything rut. I'm going to take my own advice and sign up for a course. Who knows what's in my future, I'm only in my 40s, plenty of time for a 2nd career :)
Oh love. Take this for perspective. I'm 30 also, I have an amazing, rewarding, successful career & earn enough money to own 2 properties, have literally no debt and can buy anything I want. All I want....is a baby....we've been trying for 1 year to have a baby...still trying. Sometimes, we need to look at what we have a realise how blessed we are! I'd swap you my money for your fertility. Chin up sweetie. <3
Perhaps try finding a course online. I just enrolled in my cert 3 in health services (online) then this will help me enrol into my EN (ENROLLED NURSING) chin up mumma there is plenty of help out there x