Hey all a bit of a rant as much as a question.
My brother is going through a court battle with his ex for his little girl who she ran off with end of jan start of feb.
And as of monday she has accused him of sexually assaulting thier 3 yr old daughter.
This is after not letting my brother have her for months, failing to comply with parenting plans and using bub as a method of getting what ever she wanted from him.
My brother has bent over backwards for this thing and this is what he gets in return.
He spent night after night looking after the little one while the mother was out with her friends or sleeping.
He cooked,cleaned, worked, and raised bub and even gave her all the money he earned as she had him believing he was incapable of managing finaces.
She even made him sleep on the floor like he was an animal and told him he couldnt even sleep on the couch.
How do you fight this, my family is being torn apart my brother has no hope and my mother is so stressed she will now loose her son and grand daughter for good.
Is there light at the end of this continuous dark tunnle, how do we prove these allegations are false, my brother has wanted nothing more than to have a happy family of his own and she has destroyed all of it and taken his light from him hes so dark and just hollow now it hurts to see him so destroyed.
Thanks ladies
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Legal advice, immediately.
Find any proof you can that she's lying to keep him from the daughter.
Document everything. Do not let him answer any of her phone calls or see her (and unfortunately, his daughter) until it is proven he didn't do it.
As she can lie and say he's harassing her (even if she asked him over or initiated the call)
Be there for your brother as best as you can. It is a LONG and EXPENSIVE journey with family court, which becomes incredibly worse when allegations like this are thrown into the mix.
Make sure you take him out to dinner or for some drinks to give him a break. Remember, sometimes he'll want to talk, or he might just want to pretend it all doesn't exist.
From experience, a parent who breaches a court order without a valid reason doesn't even get a slap on the wrist. They're just told to behave and not do it again.
And with allegations, my personal experience is that you have to prove you're not guilty, not the other way around.
(But the judge is sexist, stating woman can't lie about abuse, but a father has to prove abuse beyond a reasonable doubt)
If the 'woman' truly is this spiteful, she'll probably drag all your names down into the mud as well.
All you do when this happens is breathe, and laugh over the fact she spends so much time thinking about you.
(It helps, trust me)
And if it turns out that the father did do this, keep in mind that you and your mother can still get visitation rights if you go through court.
But if he can prove that she's lying, it can be grounds for him to get primary custody.
Get a really really good lawyer. Record everything.
It's a hard one. I have an ex who plays the victim EXTREMELY well. He's turned his entire family against me and a lot of friends have been sucked into his facade. He is an emotionally abusive manipulative liar who launches smear campaigns against me and the others he's dated. I'm not saying this is your brother, but, there's ALOT of men out there that do this They play the "poor victim, perfect father" dealing with an irrational monster role very convincingly.. If he's ego driven, likes attention, likes getting others sympathy, self serving, lacks empathy, compassion, cheats on woman and has a track record of lying or fudging the truth, i'd do some research on NPD, sociopaths etc. Either he could be or maybe he's dealing with one? Mothers love having every second weekend off, don't you worry about that! They real reason a loving, caring mother keep their children away from the ex's is because they have fears for the wellbeing of the child. I guess you should think back, think about what your thought of her when you knew her personally, rather than what you now think of her after the stories you have heard. I may be way off the mark but throwing in food for thought.