Single mums who have full custody of young kids (toddler and baby) who's fathers live interstate.
My ex is over 2000kms away and sporadic at best with phonecalls and checks on our kids. Best intentions (I hope) but he has always been terrible with initiative, so rarely makes contact and our son, who is one, doesn't recognise him without prompting from me (we also have a baby on the way).
We are currently in mediation over visitation and other things and I'm curious about other peoples visitation arrangements.
I want supervision (not me supervising, my parents, who our son is extremely close to) as I am worried about our son adjusting and potentially being traumatised (I use this term after speaking to my psychologist about the issue) if he actually does visit and is left alone with his dad straight away, and no over nights. This seems reasonable as he hasn't visited in over 5 months and called maybe three times, no Skype, although I've offered. I also think my ex needs this supervision time to adjust to our now tantrum throwing, walking, talking, 1 year old going on 16.
He doesn't see this because he doesn't realise our son has changed (and grown attached etc to his current surroundings and people) and is willing to go to court over the matter.
What arrangements to people have? Am I being reasonable or is it my overbearing pregnancy hormones kicking in??
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He's one year old I think he's crazy to expect he can take him overnight. I don't know the law though, but my fingers are crossed for you. If I was you I would seek legal advice asap.
I am in the same position, had baby, except their dad is very hands on. They know him. He doesn't take the the baby overnight (he has twice when I've asked but in general no I don't want to be far away overnight and I'm breastfeeding so can't anyway). He stays here on weekends. He sleeps in the spare room and the kids go and sleep with him. He can take the oldest away camping overnight but he's a hands on parent, I'd expect your ex would have to slowly work up to this point.