How do you break up with your partner? I genuinely don't think this relationship is going to work anymore. I feel like I'm carrying pretty much all the burden for taking care of the household. We were doing counselling but it never really stuck for household chores and for fight management.
I love him with all my heart and soul, but I just don't think either of us were ready for this relationship. He won't go out and find a better job because he's too anxious. He won't think about getting any form of career. He is so immature, I can't handle it anymore.
How do you break up assets? My mum bought us the car and we're $1000 in on paying it but the rest my mum has loaned. We haven't equally paid for it. Nor assets in the house. 90% my mum gave us, does he get to keep it because I'll be moving in with my mum?
It seems so much easier staying in the relationship but I don't know how to make it work anymore
How to end a relationship
How to end a relationship
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Like a bandaid. Rip it off fast.
Stuff is stuff in six months you won't care. Sometimes it's easier to give more than what's fair just to make it easy. Of youre going where there's furniture and he's staying and needs it, let him keep it.
It works itself out.
I completely know what you mean it seems easier to just stay, but think of what youre missing. Happiness and meaningful relationships are pretty much what life is about.
You leave and let the lawyers sort it out in settlement. But as the first person said, stuff is stuff and don't waste time and energy arguing over nickels and dimes.
Get advice from a lawyer as it doesn't matter who paid for what.
I'm the poster. We're not married and can't afford a lawyer which makes leaving harder because we both don't have good incomes :( it's enough to live off together but separately is another story
If that's the case you would probably be approved for legal aid.
Google free phone legal advice. There are services in most states that can give you the info you need for free.
PS some lawyers will take there fees out of the final settlement. Eg if you sell the house and there is equity they will receive a small portion.
Plus wether you are married or not there still needs to be a financial settlement. Depending on how long you've been together in the eyes of the law you maybe financially married.
Im just gunna put this out there but its sounds to me like ur giving up to easy...are there kids involved?? Do you have a career? He already has a job..who works more hours per week ? Is your job only casual and his is fulltime? Im currently a stay at home mum i do pretty much all the house hold chores because my man works big day so i cant expect him to do chores aswell....
it sounds to me like your a bit to spoilt by your mum and she hasnt let you just move out and work things out for your self....if this is the case hunni your not going to be happy with anyone unless they are millionaires...me and my partner scrap the bottom of the bucket every week when moved out we had to do it for our selfs my mum wouldnt even go gaurntor on my car loan... no matter how hard it is when it comes to the end of the day we love each other ...money doesnt buy love
Poster here. I work 40+ hours per week at he barely does that I'm his fortnight. There have been many opportunities for him to get a better job, but he won't take it. Yes, we have a 1 year old daughter. I did all the housework when I was pregnant because I was unable to work and I did it happily because it was what I was needed to be doing at the time. But I am now needing the help because I can at times be working up to a 60 hour week plus all the chores.
The reason my mum helped out was because of the job my partner has and my not working during pregnancy, we were barely surviving. We pay my mum back with interest, just like Amy loan but as she was in the position to help without ever having to completely struggle and ,ake ends meet like with any other loan, she loaned us the money.
I also agree, money doesn't buy love. But it's not just about money nor love. It's about fair equality and him not stepping up to the plate for his side of responsibilities.
Poster here. I work 40+ hours per week at he barely does that I'm his fortnight. There have been many opportunities for him to get a better job, but he won't take it. Yes, we have a 1 year old daughter. I did all the housework when I was pregnant because I was unable to work and I did it happily because it was what I was needed to be doing at the time. But I am now needing the help because I can at times be working up to a 60 hour week plus all the chores.
The reason my mum helped out was because of the job my partner has and my not working during pregnancy, we were barely surviving. We pay my mum back with interest, just like Amy loan but as she was in the position to help without ever having to completely struggle and ,ake ends meet like with any other loan, she loaned us the money.
I also agree, money doesn't buy love. But it's not just about money nor love. It's about fair equality and him not stepping up to the plate for his side of responsibilities.