Coming off the back of the dad video posted yesterday. Questions for adults who grew up with divorced / separated families.
Was it 50/50 or some other arrangement? How old were you when the arrangement started? How did you feel about this? Would you change anything? Did your parents get on ok?
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My parents split up when I was young. I hated my visits with my dad because he was raping me. I couldn't tell anyone because I was too embarrassed. My dad was a very likable man. He was Christian, went to church all the time and had a lot of friends. My mum knew something wasnt right and one day packed our things and ran away with me. We had to move around a lot. I did tell her and we went through court. She got 100% care after he was convicted. It was a very long process. I have so much respect for my mother for doing what she did. She would have copped a lot of crap because no one knew what had happened. She left everyone and everything she knew for me. My father would have spent the last 20 years bad mouthing her to everyone, im of sure of that.
If she hadn't done that I may well have ended up having a child to my own father.
Things are not always as they seem.
Every situation is different but if the are no dv issues and both parents are good people and want to be in childrens life I don't see how both parents can't have 50/50 care
My parents split when I was about 3. We lived with my mother and stayed at my father's one weekend a fortnight. My parents didn't get on great at all constantly spoke bad about each other to us we were kept from my dad when my mother wasn't happy with him. If I could change anything it would definitely be more time with my dad it's always a been a big regret in my life that he didn't get to see me grow up
My mum and dad seperated when i was 4. Me and my brother spent one weekend a fortnight at dads. I was always a mummas girl and found it hard to leave mum especially on school holidays when they split the time 50/50. Both myself and my brother ended up living with dad when we turned 18 as he lived in the city and mum lived in the country we lived with him until he passed away suddenly. Though i think if i didnt live with dad i would've liked more time growing up, dad really did missed alot
My parents split when I was 6, we only got to see dad on weekends and holidays.
My Dad was always nice about mum but she was horrible about him and guilt tripped us for spending time with him and for loving our dad.
If I could change anything it would have been living with mum instead of dad.
My situation is probably a little different to most. My parents split us kids 50/50. Literally. Two lived with dad two with mum. Both parents lived within walking distance of each other and we visited as we pleased. When one parent had to work the other had the kids. Mostly kept the fights between themselves and didnt involve us. Two sisters swapped houses at one point. And at one point in my adult life i lived in both houses. Lol. Mum and dad didnt stay in contact once mum remarried.
My parents divorced when i was 19 9 years later their divorce still makes mine and my younger brothers livrs hell. Despite the fact they are both remarried.
Mum used us kids againsts dad during the split i didnt talk to my dad for 3 years because of it. Although i wasnt involved in custody issues at 16 my brothers still were it was holidays with dad (he was overseas) terms with mum.
Whatever the situation no matter how old kids are keep the issues away from them. Your kids are half of both of you. I live with alot of resentment towards both of them for what they did and still do to is and their grandkids