I am so scared of becoming a mother. I'm 30 and married but have suffered with depression for years. I want a child but it seems so difficult and I'm scared I won't cope.
I am so scared of becoming a mother. I'm 30 and married but have suffered with depression for years. I want a child but it seems so difficult and I'm scared I won't cope.
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Motherhood arrived for me by surprise, and some parts came naturally and other parts didn't.
I think it made it easier as I had exposure to kids and babies.
Can you talk to someone like your psychologist??
No, it never came naturally but I did the absolute best I could and got my son to adulthood. You need support.
I was 20 when I got pregnant and I had problems with mood swings before that, but after I had my child it got worse. It didn't come naturally at all for me and I became very depressed and had to look after a baby at the same time. I had help with looking after my son, but no one really understood what I was going through and I was judged very harshly for my struggles with motherhood. I don't know if things would be different if I hadn't been so young, but I look back and feel a lot of guilt for not loving being a mother. My son is 12 now and we get along most of the time, but he is very close to his father. I fed, changed, bathed, hugged, played games and took him on play dates and to swimming lessons and all the things mums do, including telling him I loved him every single day, but I still feel the distant between us, compared to how he is with his dad, my son often tells me he loves his dad more than me. My advice would be to try and get more help with your depression first and make sure you have a loving parter that is willing to help out as much as possible. That you really want kids will go a long way in helping you to cope. Good luck