Really confused why I'm not falling pregnant. We have been trying to fall pregnant close to ovulation as we really want a boy but if it's a girl we will be happy. I've been using clear blue ovulation tests and dtd the minute we are high fertility instead of waiting 24 hours. We fell so easily without trying with our first so not sure why it's so hard this time. Eating a diet to help conceive a boy too. What are we doing wrong? I get massive period like cramps close to ovulation not sure if that is ovulation as this month I got it twice once on Tuesday and then on Thursday surely it's not in relation to ovulating as it happened twice and was painful not just a slight pain like they say. If we try again then we will have bub so close to Christmas which is not ideal either. Anyone have any ideas or helpful advice please for trying to conceive and trying for a boy. Exactly what did you do and change before ttc. I'm not going to stress and hopefully try to get a better sleep from now on but I lay awake trying to sleep lately.
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How long have you been trying for? When was your last check up with GP?
How long have you been trying?
Only been trying for four months but we fell the first time with the other kids
Ok my advice and trust me I know how hard it is to follow.
It seems your obsessing abit too much.
4 mths is way to early to be tracking ovulation etc.
the stress of doing this is proven to affect your ability to conceive
If you fell easy with other kids then chances are you will this time you just need to relax
Exactly
Average length of time for a healthy couple, with no fertility issues to conceive is 9 MONTHS. So relax. :) We had two girls and then tried for a boy. Worked for us. Tips I can give you!
You orgasm first (that will give the sperm a more alkaline environment to help boys get to the egg first)
He orgasms as deep inside you as he can go (also aides the boy sperm). Doggy style is good for this!
Timing of ovulation, which you're already doing, is definitely most important.
Also! Have you looked at moon cycles? This is nature's way of keeping boys and girls relatively even (ever wondered why there's nearly a 50/50 split in gender on the planet?). If you're ovulating around the time of a NEW moon, your egg is positively charged, and will therefor attract female sperm (a more negative charge). If you're ovulating around the time of FULL moon, your egg is negatively charged and will attract a positively charged sperm (male). We happened to conceive our boy the day after a full moon. this isn't mystical hogwash, either. Scienticifically proven that your egg caries either a positive or negative charge and that male sperm have a more positive charge than females. The moon can change tides... it can also make babies!
Obviously, though, absolutely nothing you do is a 100% guarantee. You could do everything to sway the gender, put in all this effort and still get a girl. My SIL had four daughters trying for a boy. I had to really, really get that into my head and accept a third girl before getting too invested. I KNEW I would have been fine with another girl once I really thought it over. Picked many girls names, too.
Well my cycle falls on a new moon so I guess that means I'm pretty much having a girl. I'm happy but want to try everything to have a boy
It will change as the time goes on! It's not 100% accurate.. It just edges your bet.
Some people can't have children, thank God for whatever miracle he gives you
As a midwife, I hear dozens of stories about how hard it was to conceive when they were trying so hard. Then they give up on it, relax, stop obsessing, and bam - pregnant. Stress hormones inhibit labour too. When it comes to pregnancy, birth, and parenting, it's SO important to be calm.
Have you recently come off contraception? It took us 4 months to conceive with both of our babies after having the implanon removed. I know that doesn't sound like very long in terms of trying but being from a highly fertile family, that's forever! First bub wasn't planned even though we took other preventative measures and second we actively started trying for immediately. Trying or not, the 4 month mark for me seems to be when my body bounces into baby making mode. It might be shorter or longer for others but it's worth considering. Good luck mama x